- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Hello! After almost a year of lurking, I have finally signed up for the boards. I know there are tons of posters here, so I won’t keep ya long…
I got engaged (to the most amazing guy I’ve ever known, of course) on August 6, of last year (my b-day) after several months of completely and totally oh-so wanting it to happen. Our date is May 21 (AH!) Before and since our engagement, I’ve turned to Weddingbee for inspiration by the piles, so I finally figured I had to sign up because I was starting to feel bad merely lurking. Plus, I have questions AND comments!
If you’re still reading, a rundown real quick…3:00 ceremony. Three bridesmaids, four groomsmen. Our wedding industry-mandated “vision”: cool, breezy and modern with a touch of whimsy (there will be bird ink stamps on the invite envelopes and bird cake toppers), lots of dark purple, just a few touches of aqua, coral, fuchsia, yellow, and a little greenery for an organic feel. Venues are booked (ceremony: chapel on the campus of the university where we attended/met/I now work/he still attends; reception: local art studio downtown with huge floorspace, very urban-looking with exposed brick, rafters and ductwork, concrete floors, etc.) Music is decided (Vitamin String Quartet, Coldplay, Muse, Smashing Pumpkins, and that’s just the ceremony.) No alcohol, no dances, no bouquet/garter toss (all because we just don’t wanna). Catering secured but by no means finalized (but it will be lots of hors d’oeuvres), wedding favors decided (candy buffet, duh–but want to come up with a twist to speak of our particular “quirkiness”). Some decorations (including vases to be used as centerpieces for reception and apothecary jars for candy). Dress in my closet (Jessica McClintock ruched mermaid with bubble skirt, it’s divine but wasn’t expensive or an obsession). Bridesmaid outfits in works (David’s Bridal lapis, they pick their own cut and fabulous shoes; each girl in different colored shoe: light aqua, fuchsia, and mustard yellow. They’re also choosing their own hair/makeup/jewelry/etc.) We will do a sand ceremony (FI and I love the beach and his mother lives there), my grandfather is going to be the officiant (he’s a pastor), and save-the-dates were sent in November (photo postcard done on zazzle.com). Invitation samples ordered; Rehearsal dinner will be at our newly-leased home (also downtown) in the big backyard (pretty casual, wedding party and close family). Honeymoon: cabin in the mountains to get away from everything.
With all that said, some to-do’s for us include: veil/shoes/accessories, securing cake baker and ordering cakes, securing florist/ordering flowers, bridesmaid/groomsmen gifts, catering for rehearsal dinner (probably sandwiches from a local deli; this will also be the day of my younger sis/MOH’s birthday so we want to do something to honor her during the dinner), groomsmen’s/my dad’s suits, mothers’ outfits, most decorations (some DIY…am I stupid?), other ideas that have not (and may not) come to fruition, and I’m sure I’m missing plenty of to-do’s, but that’s all I can think of for now.
What an overload of information (won’t keep ya long? Ha!), but the point of this is, I am usually a sort of control freak/perfectionist, and I have felt cool as a cucumber through most of this so far. I know I’ve gotten a good bit done, but now I feel like I’m down to the wire. While looking at the to-do’s, I do feel a little stressed, but for some reason, I’m not COMPLETELY FREAKING OUT. I have no idea why. I didn’t anticipate becoming a Bridezilla, but I did expect to feel the heat a WHOLE lot more than I actually do.
So my question is, what am I missing? I feel like I should be stressin’ more. Am I just that cool? I really doubt that. With less than four months to go, I’m getting nervous about not being nervous…and what is THAT?!
(Glad to be here, y’all! 🙂 )