- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Hi everyone! So glad to be able to hang out with you guys until our day comes 🙂
Our story: Late 20s, together for almost 3 years & currently living together.
Recently, I brought up our FIRST seriously overdue discussion on marriage, kids, etc. I was so scared that he would run away screaming but he was shockingly receptive and agreed whole heartedly to everything I said. He thought I already magically knew that was the plan. Men! Anyway, I told him I had already found two rings that I have loved, gave him the info on it, and told him that I wouldn’t bring it up again and for him to use the information as he wishes.
So, he asked me to set up the ring on a layaway payment plan right then and there! We set it up together and I was on cloud 9.
Since then- We’ve talked more about it but I’ve been very selective of bringing anything up since I don’t want to freak him out.
He told his family 2 weekends ago of our plans.. on his own! Yay!
BUT- I’m getting mixed signals.. for instance:
-Since then, there hasn’t been another payment made (it’s been a month & he’s been getting extra money in consistently) *This is freaking me out the most.
-He’s brought up that he’s “all in” but he’s afraid marriage will change me into a bitch like some women he knows. We talked through it and he seemed relieved after that convo.
-He joked last night that he can “feel” my “wedding switch turned all the way up” and that he knows I am jealous of his sister’s wedding and wish I was planning my wedding right now instead of being a bridesmaid in hers? I was like……….”You should be happy that my switch is on for you! What if it wasn’t?” Winked and walked out of the room.
I’m just a little frustrated and worried that he’s having second thoughts or will take 2 years to pay off the ring! I’m definitely on the “waiting cycle” of “Urgency/excitement about engagement, then Emotional pain/feelings of rejection, then Uncertainty/Apathy” on a DAILY BASIS!
Whew, sorry for the long post. Thanks for listening!!