Post # 1
my bf and I are both 27 (ill be 28 in january) we’ve been together 4yrs now. the first two years marriage wasnt on my mind much, until he mentioned getting married to me in a casual conversation while watching tv.
we even estimated a date when we would, i started looking at dresses, picking wedding colors, telling friends and family and then BAM! the date came and passed with not a peep from him about the subject. i wallowed in disappointment and let the nagging about marriage commence.
occasionally i’d ask when did he see us marrying, he’d give me a time frame but not an exact date. i think ive heard every reason on why hes not %100 ready yet.
having some control in every aspect of your life except this makes u feel vulnerable and insecure, i went through a phase of wondering ‘maybe im not worthy of marriage’ while seeing friends and family around me getting married.
just recently i left him over this issue, thinking i could move on, but it only lasted 3 days. he would text me non stop and leave voicemails asking to work things out and i gave in :/
as much as i resent him sometimes over the marriage issue, i still love him.. so i took him back, we had a long talk and he said it would happen. i’ve given myself a timeline of august 2012 (our 5th yr anniversary) if nothing happens i only hope im strong enough to walk away for good this time.
in the meantime ive read into Mr bees plan here and im taking more time to focus on myself. hopefully it works! im happy to come across this board, gluck to everyone whose waiting! especially us long timers.
Post # 3
Welcome to the Hive!
I hope that we can occupy your time during your wait. The ladies here are a great sounding board and a great support system. I hope that your wait isn’t too long 🙂
Post # 4
So glad you joined!
The waiting boards will be a fabulous place! Please also share with us, what you do want for you future wedding, the colors you picked and everything. I’d love to hear about it 😉
I hope he realizes how important you are and that he is truly ready to commit, instead of stringing you along! I know you want to leave it alone Mr. Bee style, but after your breakup , do you think you finally got through to him on how important it is for you?
Post # 5
thanks yall 🙂 Mrs Argentina ive always wanted a small intimate indoor wedding with an old hollywood feel to it. lot of deep reds, cranberry color. black and white suits, deep red flower in my hair. ive been picturing it for a long time now! a nice long ivory strapless form fitting gown with embellishments. maybe one day :/
after i took him back i made sure to get my point across on how important marriage is to me, and he told me it would happen so im really taking a leap of faith that he will do the right thing and make an honest woman out of me already! lol. keeping my fingers crossed.
Post # 6
Welcome, txbella! This is a great community, glad you found us. Many/most of us here can relate to the “unworthy” feelings when we see those around us get married faster. I’ve also been with my boyfriend for 4 years, 5 this spring. Good for you for communicating your feelings with him openly- I know how hard that is.
Post # 8
Welcome txbella – this will be a good place for you.
Post # 9
Welcome to the Hive! I started here as a Waiting Bee too. It’s a really great environment to vent, find others in your situation, and even distract yourself from real life lol.