Post # 1
I’m just curious how other bees who are marrying their high school sweetheart knew they were ready to get married. My good friend and I are both marrying our sweethearts this year (we are 21). She’s been engaged much longer than I have, since they were in high school, but we’ve both been in our relationships for 6 years. I thought it was interesting we picked the same time in our lives, although I did set my date before her so I don’t know if that had an effect on their decision at all. So how did you know you were ready??
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I got engaged at the same time. I think it’s just that you are starting a new stage in your life, and since you’re sure about your relationship, it seems fitting to bump that to the next level too.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. FI and I started dating at 17, and became engaged at 21. We’ll be married when I’m 23 and he’s 22. We just left our undergraduate degrees, have an apartment together, etc, so it felt quite ready to jump our relationship to the next step as well.
I knew I was ready when I thought about where I wanted to be in the future and he was always there in that vision with me – it wasn’t even a choice in my mind for him to not be, as it would have been so very very strange and offputting for him to be missing from my future.
Post # 4
We started dating in high school and got engaged at 19 and 21. Pretty much everyone I know gets married the summer they graduate college so it was just the obvious choice so we bought a house and set the date for 2 weeks after graduation. We only really discussed marriage once before we got engaged because we knew it was inevitable and we had an almost two year engagement.
Post # 5
We didn’t get engaged until we were 26. We started living together after we finished our undergraduate degrees, and didn’t really think about getting married until we hit the mid-20s hump. I probably would have married him at 18 if marriage was at all on my radar, so it wasn’t a question of knowing when we were ready. It just made sense at a certain point, so we took the next step.
Post # 6
Were your FI’s always on the same page as you were with marriage? FI and I started dating as freshmen in high school, so we definitely both had our share of doubts if we would end up married. It seems like all of your men were positive from the beginning!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
KristenD9: We waited until we had gone through college, work experience, grad school, and bought a house… so a long time! We basically waited until we felt like we were ready to think about having a family soon. Neither of us really were in any rush to get married, obviously. We started dating at 17 and 19, and got engaged at 29 and 31 🙂
We DEFINITELY had doubts about whether or not we would make it in the long run – not because we were ever unhappy (our relationship itself is utterly fantastic), but just because of the difficult logistics of finding a life partner so early yet wanting to still have a lot of adventures and life experiences. We went to college on opposite coasts, have both lived abroad multiple times, have lived and worked in 6 different states since college, etc etc. We both feel so so lucky that we were able to get through all of that and come through stronger on the other side.
Post # 8
We got engaged shortly after my grandma gave out to us saying she can’t wait around forever for us to get married… lol we were together for 9 (maybe 10? i dont keep track…) years by that time.
Post # 9
We started dated at 16/18, engaged at 20/22, and married at 22/24. For us, it was a no brainer. We had already been through so much, we wanted to be together and spend our lives together, so why not get married?
Were we always on the same page about marraige? Heck no! At 17, I almost dumped him because he didn’t want kids. Now I’m the one who doesn’t want kids. We went through a period where he was itching to be with other women and I was itching to be with other men. We got through and realized how lucky we were to have each other. When you’re together for so long, everyone has doubts and insecurities. Things settled more as we got older.
Post # 10
We were always on the same page. We fought dating each other in early high school and said we didn’t like each but once we actually started dating I don’t think either of us ever had a doubt we’d get married, I knew at about 16 for sure. We both come from strict Christian families and had all the “qualifications” our parents wanted for us so we knew we weren’t going to find anyone better lol
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
lolot: You guys stayed together the whole time?! That is so impressive!
Post # 12
KristenD9: FH and I started dating when we were in middle school and continued all throughout high school. When we graduated at the age of 19 we had been together over 5 years, FH didn’t want to wait any longer (although we had a vague ‘timeline” to get engaged after university 4 years later) because he knew he wanted to marry me and proposed!
We were going to have a 4 year long engagement and get married after university but again, he (and I) were excited to get married to we pushed it up by a year and will be married in 2 months.
Post # 13
My now-fiancé and I have been together since we were 16. Engaged at 22, and getting married next year at 23.
We have pretty much always known that we were going to get married, but have been really seriously talking about it for about 2 years.
We definitely needed to finish or undergraduate degrees first, and that was mutually understood. Also, I suggested that we wait a little longer so that I’m not too stressed out planning a wedding during my last year at the university. It would also give us more time to save up enough money.
So, we are getting married next summer, after our first year of grad school.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
lealorali: Sort of – and yeah, it wasn’t easy! We went off to college broken up so we wouldn’t be tied down in a LDR. After a year or year and a half, that turned into a semi-open relationship. Then a NOT open relationship after another year or so, haha.
A lot of those places we’ve worked and traveled, we were together. But not always – for example, I worked on a freaking desert island with no electricity etc in the Galapagos for 5 months… that was awesome except for being apart from him.
Post # 15
I have the same timeline as a lot of you bees: started dating when we were 16/18, engaged at 19/21, and will be married at 22/24. We were long-distance for the first three years of our relationship, so we dealt with a lot, and any of the typical jealousy that pops up in a relationship was taken care of in that time haha! I was pretty sure after about a year, and even though he was very sure in our relationship, he wasn’t ready to put the “marriage” term on it right away. Found out later that he was more worried about what his parents would think and if they’d make the experience difficult for us (he was right…they have haha). The moment for us came when he no longer cared about their opinions, and we realized that everything we were planning for our lives involved both of us, and there were never any doubts about sharing our future together. We were planning our whole married life together, and we were tired of having to keep it a secret from people who thought it was silly to seriously plan a future with someone who’s “just your boyfriend/girlfriend”. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been worth it!