Highschool all over again…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would probably have stood up to them, because this is old shit and should be left in the past.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsGinkgo:  Obviously, you can’t go back in time, but you should have said something.  Next time, say, “Um, are we still in high school?  Please grow up.”  Who cares if that makes you a “bitch”?  Honestly, it’s not bitchy but accurate.  Who cares about high school anymore?  Maybe just stop being friends with them.  

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MsGinkgo:  Oh, my bad… I don’t know why I thought it was your  bach party!  Yeah, don’t make waves at someone else’s event, but if it comes up again you can say something tactful, yet firm.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Oh my gosh, your situation sounds really frustrating.   Hopefully your BM can stay away from these people at your wedding.  At any rate, I wouldn’t worry about it.  I’m sure you and your BM will be so busy on the wedding day that she/you won’t even know anything is going on (if it even does)!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

12 years and they are still talking about it?? Yikes. Since you can’t go back in time, I would just find an appropriate time to bring it up before the wedding. Sounds like these girls won’t be changing their minds about how they feel about your BM but you could just remind them that this will be your day and you want to make sure everyone will get along and that if they love you, they’ll refrain from causing any drama/making your BM feel bad (from something that was 12 years ago!! *still shaking my head*)

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

This BM is your best friend and you didn’t stand up to these girls? You need to sit down with the girls and tell them this shit isn’t going to fly at any of your wedding events and high school is over and leave their shit in the past. If I was your BM and found out they were talking shit about me and you know I’m sensitive about it and didn’t say anything to them I’d be upset at you for not standing up for someone who is supposed to be your best friend.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve found no one ever gets mad at the girl who says, “I really feel uncomfortable talking behind so-and-so’s back.  Can we change the subject, please?”

It’s a good way to stop the gossip without creating more drama.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

@MsGinkgo:  That’s understandable, wine certainly causes me to lose my filter and say things I wouldn’t normally say! But hopefully that won’t happen at your wedding/any celebrations prior. Everyone will probably be more focused on celebrating you and your FI than anything else.

But yeah! I was totally different in high school. If these ladies are good friends, then they wouldnt want to let their petty shit cause tension for you. Maybe just bring it up casually so they get a clue it’s a concern of yours and see how they respond. Then you can feel better and focus on being excited! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why girls can’t seem to grow up is beyond me >.< If it happens again, definitely say something.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Wow. Wth is wrong with these girls. If I were you I will tell them that if they start crap with her on your wedding day that you will lose contact with them. 

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