(Closed) Hindu Ceremony Help

posted 8 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hi there. I’m a caucasian American who married my Indian hubby last November in India. We had the ceremony and reception at a gorgeous hotel. During the ceremony people had food, chai and talked. As far as I know (it may vary regionally though), it is a very laid-back ceremony (compared to Western weddings). My understanding is that the family/friends are not expected to be quiet and listen the whole time. They are expected to walk around, talk, etc. Could you check with other pundits or are you really set on this one? I can’t answer the fee question since ours was in India…

 

 

Post # 4
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I just researched Hindu ceremonies and found this (from eHow):

 

Offer food and alternate entertainment to occupy the guests during the wedding ceremony. (Eating, drinking and talking during the ceremonial events is accepted practice at Hindu weddings.)

Post # 6
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yep, I would contact a few others to see how you like them and to compare the fee as well. Good luck!

What are you wearing for the wedding? Sari? Can’t wait to see pics! 🙂

Post # 8
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Awesome. I didn’t wear a sari, but they are just beautiful. I wore a red and green lehenga.  (And a pink lehenga for the reception)

His cousins will help you. They’ll enjoy it! My hubby’s cousins in India all had fun  putting my jewelry on for the ceremony..they fussed over me. They were awesome. Have fun picking a sari!

Post # 9
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think this pundit sounds unusual. I can’t speak to price, but $1000 seems like a lot. And both of the traditional Hindu weddings I’ve been to while old enough to remember did have food and drink during the ceremony, in the back, and people milled around because it takes quite a long time and is hard to see everything due to the mandap blocking part of it.

Oh, and I forgot to say I’m Indian, fiance is European-American. Good luck with your planning, I hope it works out just the way you want!

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The price is comparable to what I believe we are paying for an officiant for our hindu ceremony.  However, he would be traveling a couple hours to and from our ceremony and would be doing some prayers in the morning with my fiance’s family.  The price may reflect that.  

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

First of all congratulations !!!  I am getting married on 11/28/10 in CT and our priest is charging about $500 for the wedding.

I think $1000 is a bit steep but it could also depend on where you are.

It is pretty normal for guests to be eating during the ceremony part of it. I am surprised that the priest said no food is allowed.

Good luck with the search

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

MBSyral, the restriction on eating during the ceremony is not unusual. It just depends on what traditions your priest is from. Many Punjabis are Arya Samaji (as is my family) & that’s the norm for all our pundits. It sounds like your priest may be as well. Food (prasad) is eaten after the ceremony (talk to your pundit about this, some pundits insist on no meat in the meal – that’s certainly the norm for us).

A lot of pundits will also insist on no talking by the guests & will eject them from the ceremony if they dont abide by that (I’ve seen this happen – they’ll also get a lecture that, if they came to gossip rather than witness & bless your wedding, they should take themselves elsewhere). If you go with this pundit warn your Indian guests; if they are from more tradtional Sanātana Dharma customs, they’ll be used to talking & eating.

As to how formal the ceremony should feel, talk to the pundit. He’ll talk you through the details, but it sounds like he may be fairly formal (again the norm in my community).

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