Post # 1
My ladies have hinted to me about a bachelorette (I think they’re pretty excited). When should I give them a list of people I would like there? Should I ask them or just send it?
I don’t know if I am getting a shower or not (not expecting one since I will be having a destination wedding), but should I also include a list of people who would be invited to the shower as well?
I.e. for the bachelorette I don’t think I would be inviting my mom/aunts/FMIL etc, but I know Future Mother-In-Law would want to attend a shower.
How can I approach this? Thanks!
Post # 3
Depends if the girls organizing the parties know all your other friends and family. If there are people you want there that the girls dont know, then you must tell them. I am sending a list of people i want at my bridal shower. I would be dissapointed to find people there i didnt want. Its just awkward.
I think this is one of the very few things you should know about when it comes to these parties.
Post # 4
If there is one in particular who you are very close to, you can bring up with her that you feel like people have hinted at it and would it be helpful for you to provide a list of people who you would like there along with phone numbers? Or, if your Fiance is close to them, you could have him be the one to approach them and say “I don’t know if you guys are planning a bachelorette party for her, but if you are I think I can secretly get a list of people that she would like there and their contact info.” If they’re planning a shower, the gal you talk to will pick up on that cue and probably ask for a list for a shower as well. I think outright sending a list can come across as you implying that you expect one, but you do want to make sure that you don’t have any friends who you will miss and/or who will feel hurt or left out because your friends didn’t know to include them.
Post # 5
I think if they are planning one for you they will ask you for the names. While you may not know the themes of a shower or what exactly you’re doing the night of the bachelorette they’re not secret parties.