Hints about this year and school schedule madness– input please

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Creiddylad:  I think he hasn’t done it because he isn’t ready. Period. If he was ready, he would propose. Honestly, you sound like a busy girl with a lot going on. I would try not to stay so fixated on it. Like you said, you have a great relationship and an exciting vacation coming up. Focus on that and the fact that you have found the man you want to spend your life with. A ring won’t magically change anything – enjoy what you have and stop expecting…that is when it will happen 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think that’s a reason for him to postpone asking (if he’s really planning on asking). Wouldn’t that make him want to ask sooner? The fact that you have all these things going on shouldnt matter , i just think if he truly wants to propose he will no matter what is going on. I lived out of the country came back was in school full time, working, and working on my own art work all at once when it happened! So just do you! And if it happens great, if it doesn’t then its his loss bc you sound like a lady that is driven and smart! 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No one here can answer that question any better than you can. If you want to know, ask him. He will propose when he’s ready.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Creiddylad:  He can love you and not want to marry you right now. It is not a decision to be taken lightly and I personally would not want to feel like I pressured my FI into proposing…who wants to marry someone who they had to force to propose to them? If he is committed now and you are happy, then you have a lot more going for you than a lot marriages do. It is just a title (legalities aside) and a commitment of the heart is far more important. Many marriages don’t have that.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Creiddylad:  I’ve seen some of your waiting posts and I don’t think it’s healthy to overanalyze every little sign and wonder if it’s a potential sign that he’s going to propose soon. If it bothers you, just ask him, like what do you mean when you say X or Y.  Ask him if he’s waiting to propose because of your housing situation.  We’re not mind readers here, we can’t tell you what we think your SO may be thinking, especially when we’ve never even met him!  It sounds like he has given you a definite timeline of next April though, which is many months away, so I’d try to relax until next year.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@Creiddylad:  congrats about grad school 🙂

waiting sucks, really sucks, especially if you have for a while, but if it were me I’d rather wait until the semester is over to be engaged.  Grad school is really hard and I’d rather focus on that mainly so I could get good grades.  Sound like you guys have a great relationship and it’s a matter of time, don’t know your background story but that’s what I get  🙂

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Creiddylad:  You know, I never actually mentioned marriage to my man (except to say I never wanted to get married, lol…it was true at the time, it wasn’t reverse psychology). He has told me many times that he never would have proposed if I bothered him about it and the fact that I was so relaxed, willing to show him I was committed without nagging, and just being happy living in the moment with him was why he knew he wanted to spend his life with me. 

We got engaged after 3 months so maybe I did something right! 😀 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

@Creiddylad:  I just saw your update link, how exciting!!! sounds like he paid attention after all! how happy for you 🙂

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