Hints that you give

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I’m not engaged or married but I do give hints! I’ll usually say things like: “babe! Did you see the size of her ring?! That’s gorgeous but I don’t need one that big.” OR, I’ll say something like: “hon, do you realize that we could be marriend and home owners within the next 2 or 2 1/2 years?” He usually gives one line responses like, yeah, that’s nice.

ETA: he always assures me that we’ll be married soon, like, within the next 3 years! 🙂

Post # 4
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119 posts
Blushing bee

I’m not engaged or married but I do give hints! I’ll usually say things like: “babe! Did you see the size of her ring?! That’s gorgeous but I don’t need one that big.” OR, I’ll say something like: “hon, do you realize that we could be marriend and home owners within the next 2 or 2 1/2 years?” He usually gives one line responses like, yeah, that’s nice.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Reneesmith741992:  I didnt give hints.  Im not that subtle.  I would pull him into jewelry stores and pick out the rings I liked, get sized.  I would wiggle my ‘naked’ finger in his face and give him a pouty face.  I even pulled up the ring I wanted at one store on the computer screen really big so that when he got home and touched the computer that is what would be there! I got a ring and we are now married.  Took him 3 1/2 years to propose and 2 years for me to plan the wedding.  I wasnt in a huge rush for that part. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How about an adult conversation?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’m married. Honestly I don’t do hints, I’m farily point blank. We we sitting at a pub having chicken wings when I said ‘If this isn’t going in the direction I want it to go, meaning marriage, then there is no point in continuing this relationship.’ That lead to a long open discussion about what we both wanted and how we were going to get there. Previously DH’s ex-crazy-pants was sooo obsessed with marriage he was scared to talk about it with me. We ended up with a timeline and discussed what we both needed before he popped the question (a house, that I was not moving into without a ring). He actually proposed a little earlier than anticipated, and we got married later than out time line (org. wanted to marry in June, but actually did in October).

As for the proposal, that was all up to him I had no say, and I knew that there was a way that he wanted to do it, so I didn’t have any input.

For the ring, we walked into a store I fell in love, the lady wrote the number down, I handed him the card and said “I want that one”. He was happy since he didn’t care at all about the ring.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Reneesmith741992:  If you can’t have an open conversation about marriage, you’re not ready for marriage….  Sometimes the hardest part is just bringing it up for the very first time!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I tried the hinting thing at first but all that got me was a lot of frustration because a lot of guys do not do subtle. 

Eventually I just started a real converstion with him about where he saw us going, if he saw that happening soon or further down the line.  That ended up being so much better because instead of wondering if it was ever going to happen I knew that we were on the same page.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

@Andthepupmakes3:  I’m sure she doesn’t mean it that way. I bet she’s more than capable of having a conversation eith her SO- this is most likely just a fun post because, whether we admit it or not, we have ALL dropped some kind of hint when we were either initiating the conversation with SO or just testing the waters. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Andthepupmakes3:  +1. You can give all the hints in the world and it won’t change a man’s mind or make him move faster. More likely, he will get annoyed.  The women who are still giving hints are the ones who aren’t engaged yet. Just sit down and have an adult conversation with him. I told my FI that I need/want to be engaged by the end of 2013, he said ok, and we got engaged on November 9.

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