Post # 1
We are going to have a small reception with 75 at most, but probably closer to 50, and its going to be split 1/3 his family (doesn’t dance), 1/3 my family (doesn’t dance), 1/3 my friends (dances!). We’re holding our reception at a typical banquet hall for four hours and I think between cocktail hour, buffet, speeches, people will stay for three hours but I would really like them to stay the full time.
Even if no one dances, I would really like to have the first dance as a couple, father/daughter, mother/son, and maybe brother/sister (just so I can embarass my 13yr brother) dances. Do you think we should get a DJ ($250 on a 4k budget) or should we just try to iPOD DJ it and have someone with the right personality to MC?
I am worried a DJ would be a waste of money if no one dances but at the same time DJs are supposed to be really good MCs. I’ve also heard DJ horror stories that kind of deter me away from hiring one. I am so torn bees, any advice?
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@CrazyCatLady13: I voted to hire a DJ, but having said that we’re on a fairly big budget and our DJ (including all lights plus uplighting) is going to cost us $1,000.
I think it’s fairly important though, because an experienced DJ will be able to read the room and play music based on the atmosphere and try to pump people up and will add to the whole feel of the reception!
If you do decide to go with a DJ, make sure you do a lot of research and try and find as many reviews as possible. We nixed a lot of DJs just from review feedback alone, and then tried to find a DJ who was highly recommended in forums etc. This helped us cut down the list massive amounts, and after we chose our DJ discovered that he had won top place in the Bridal Industry Awards for our state! Reviews and word of mouth are very important!
Post # 7
To me a DJ is just too much money when I can play songs I know I will like (and I know my SMALL wedding crowd will like) for free. I’m putting on good dance music, but not getting bothered either way about whether people elect to dance. Basically from what I’ve been reading the odds are just as good I’ll end up hating my DJ as having issues with the ipod, etc. If I’m gonna have a problem I’d rather it be a free problem than an expensive one. And if it’s going to go well, again, I’d prefer it to go well for free than go well expensively.
So the choice was clear for us, we’ve been working on our playlists. 🙂
Post # 8
@CrazyCatLady13: There are some things better done DIY, and some things better left to the professionals. I firmly believe that music is not something you should do yourself!
For my sisters wedding, we wanted to do it cheaply, so I created a playlist on my laptop. It was pretty much a disaster. It took me forever to compile and order the music. So stressfull (when I should have been focusing on normal MOH duties!). We put a friend in charge, but she didn’t really care or keep watch. Then half way through a drunk guest walked up and just played whatever he wanted to hear! All that work I did down the drain!
For my wedding we learned our lesson and hired a DJ. I don’t regret it at all! Best decision IMO.
Post # 9
“If I’m gonna have a problem I’d rather it be a free problem than an expensive one.”
Post # 10
@CrazyCatLady13: Okay… I cannot stress this enough! I grew up in the wedding indusrty because my mom was a wedding photorapher and my dad was a caterer. The DJ IS the party and I guarentee if you use an ipod NOBODY will dance! 250 is really cheap for a DJ and therefore I am assuming he sucks….A bad DJ is as good as a ipod.
DJs control the party and help direct everyone when things are going on including: cake cutting/ first dance/ any reception games/ grand exit/ ect. If you don’t use a DJ then you will have to do it all yourself and I am telling you that you NEVER want to do that. I would have to say that everyone will remember the reception more than anything else.
If you can’t spend more that the 250 then go for a band that will play music and direct the party although they aren’t a good as a DJ they are still better than an ipod/BAD DJ. I would spend 1000 on a DJ (at the very least!). I am having a very small 6k wedding and am spending 1000 on a DJ my mom knows from the industry. He usually charges 1450 for his cheapest package but is giving me his medium package for 1000 (yeah for connections). POIN IS that for 250 you can EXPECT nobody to dance.
A great DJ never fails to get everyone on the floor! Even people that usually aren’t the dancing type.
Post # 11
@Payless: Also a wedding is NO time to show off your taste in music…Sounds funny huh? Seriously nothing kills a reception more than music that won’t please EVERYONE! Me and FI hate country but will keep it an option for our DJ to play because that one country jam might get someone to enjoy their night! This is where very skilled DJ’s come into play! Their huge arrangement of music will allow more people to get on their feet!
P.S why I said a band is better than an ipod is because, even if the music aspeck will be as great as an ipod THEY can at least help direct the wedding so you can just focus on having fun.
Post # 12
@CrazyCatLady13: Go with the Dj, I would hate to have someone have to get up every 10 mins to mess with that thing.
Post # 13
I would say hire a DJ. In the grand scheme of things $250 is worth it, they gauge the party and play music accordingly. I was just talking about wedding planning with my hair stylist, she said that the one thing she would have changed about her wedding was that they would have gotten a DJ because even as great and cheap an iPod is, it doesn’t have a personality.
Post # 14
To me, if you’re looking for a real party atmosphere and need someone to “read the room” and play the songs that will get people onto the floor, a DJ may be worth the investment.
I’m doing an “upscale BBQ” with a dance floor, and hope people will dance, but I’m also providing horseshoes, ladder golf, rocking chairs, and [hopefully] a photo booth as alternatives. So a dance party isn’t the goal. FI and I also have wide and varied music tastes (Sinatra to Queen)… so we have a huge must-play list. And so help me GOD if anyone plays or requests the YMCA… Shudder. No DJ. We’re setting a playlist to follow the schedule of the night from dinner to party time, crossfading between, and editing the songs to avoid awkward silences or unneccisarily long instrumentals. I’ll have to find someone to man the equipment, but our church already requires a sound guy to be present at the ceremony so we’ll probably hire him over for the reception too. There’s no reason to spend money on a DJ when I can get more of what I want for the same or less.
Post # 15
For $250 I’d hire the DJ just so I wouldn’t have to worry about it. But it depends on your venue. I don’t have nice enough speakers or anything to put my iPod through to fill an entire venue.