Post # 1
My future Mother-In-Law has offered to oversee the preparation of food for my wedding, which will have around 175-200 guests. She used to help cook for large groups at her church, but I am concerned that this will be too big of a job for her to handle and I don’t think she has a commercial kitchen available to her now. She is a very capable woman, and it would be wonderful to save THOUSANDS of dollars on catering.
It is my impression that she intends to enlist the help of family and friends. The other thing is that my fiance has an extremely serious and deadly food allergy, and it is very important that anyone preparing his food understand this and know how to make sure there is no contamination. The caterer we are considering is expensive ($5000+) but she also has this allergy and assured us that they can make sure the food is safe for him.
The wedding will be at my family’s mountain house with an small old kitchen with unreliable electricity, and I just don’t see how all the cooking could be done there, and if the cooking is done where we live, it would have to be transported 1.5 hrs to the wedding. I want her to be able to relax and enjoy the rehearsal dinner and wedding day without worrying about having food prepared for 175+ people.
The caterer we are looking at hiring would charge $5000 or more (and that doesn’t even include dinnerware, glasses and drinks), so it’s tempting to try something much cheaper. Maybe we should just keep looking for a caterer. We are going with pretty simple foods: we are roasting a pig, and we want some basic appetizers, good fresh salad, coleslaw, okra, mashed potato bar, etc. Nothing too complicated. I just want it to be fresh, not soggy and delicious!
What do you all think? Do you have any tips for cutting costs for catering? Should I rely on my Mother-In-Law to oversee the food preparation or hire a professional?
Post # 3
If it were me, I’d hire the caterer. You and your Future Mother-In-Law will be stressed enough the day of the wedding to have the additional HUGE stress of catering for 200 people. Have you thought about just appetizers and finger foods instead of a buffet or sit down dinner?
Post # 4
I would go with the caterer. Too much at risk. Your FH, the actual getting done, your family’s patience and willingness and their ability to be AT and ATTEND the wedding and not be setting up/cleaning up etc.
You could also keep looking at other caterers for someone a little cheaper.
Post # 5
I would definitely hire a caterer. Honestly, your Future Mother-In-Law is going to want to enjoy the day and not wanting to cook a meal for 200 people. That’s a lot to order, especially without a real industrial kitchen.
Post # 6
I don’t think you should rely on your Mother-In-Law, on your wedding day im sure she would want to be with you and her son, when your getting ready, and when he is getting ready. If she is put in charge, she will have to be in the kitchen all morning, maybe even during the ceremony! I mean cooking for 175+ people isn’t easy. Even if you hire people to help, if she is in charge they will come to her with every problem and question. I think you should hire a caterer and politely tell your Mother-In-Law, you appreciate the offer, but you want to have her by you and your Fiance side and not in the kitchen
Post # 7
Hire the caterer. Cooking for 200 in a house with a small old kitchen and unreliable electricity sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. I don’t think it will be worth the hassle.
If you want to save money maybe look into some cheaper catering options? I’m not sure whats available where you live or what the $5000 includes (does this include taxes and tip/labor? or food only?). If $5000 is food only, that is $25-$28 per person. You should be able to find something at maybe $12-$15 per person if you’re looking to save some money. Try some grocery stores or BBQ places.
Post # 8
Hire the caterer and let your Future Mother-In-Law enjoy her son’s wedding day.
Post # 9
$5000 isn’t a bad price, actually. If you were to take 200 people out to a restaurant for a meal you’d pay more than that, and the food is coming to you! Large guests lists mean stuff is expensive.
Your Mother-In-Law making the food is honestly a disaster waiting to happen. Best to leave it to the pros.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Get a caterer. Ours had a nut-free facility- wouldn’t even let our third-party cake on their trucks. With an allergy that severe, you don’t want any issues.
And, your Future Mother-In-Law will be able to actualy enjoy the wedding if she’s not working it.