Post # 1
Happy Monday Bees!
I was working on some wedding things yesterday, and have now been tossed into the “should I or shouldn’t I” category when it comes to hiring a DOC. There are some in the area that are very affordable – but Fiance does NOT think we need one. He is not very familiar with how weddings actually run, so he believes friends and family can help. (Bless his soul, LOL)
I work as an event coordinator for a hotel. My job title is actually Sales Manager, but part of my job is coordinating the larger events (weddings, banquets, etc.) We don’t do a lot of weddings, probably 6-8 a year. My job is essentially to prepare the event order, attend the tasting, and make sure everything day of is set-up appropriately and on schedule.
When we got engaged, I knew I wanted a venue that came with a coordinator. Unfortunately none of the other hotels in the area were large enough to accommodate our guest count, so we chose a facility on a college campus, across the street from our church.
This venue is for rental and set-up only. We have had to hire outside catering, alcohol, linens, etc. I am obviously concerned with everything arriving safely – we are having a winter wedding, which only adds to my concerns. Our guest count is 400 invited. I’m afraid that with my job, I won’t be able to relax the day of.
It sounds like I am mostly trying to convince myself that this DOC is worth the extra expense. LOL.
What do you think? Is it worth it?
Post # 3
Do you have anyone that could do it for free (or cheap)? Like a close friend who isn’t a bridesmaid? Or someone you know well that is getting married close-ish to the time you are that you could trade services with? That is what I did… because I definitely wanted someone to handle the details and I did NOT want to pay for it.
Post # 4
If you can afford it, I would do it. We’re hiring ours simply for peace of mind. I don’t really want any phone calls that morning, or to be stressing about flowers/chairs/etc. She’s mostly handling the ceremony and carting people off the reception and then she’s done. We have lots of BMs/GMs/family and I think it will be helpful to have an extra person to round up everyone for pictures and such.
We’re saving money by hiring a co-worker/friend of my godmother’s who is trying to get started by doing this type of thing on the side.
Post # 5
We just hired one and are saving money by going with someone who is just starting her business. But, i have seen postings on craigslist where brides are looking for someone to be their DOC in exchange for doing the same for the other bride’s wedding.
Post # 6
I think if you have room in your budget you should go for it. I debated this issue too, and decided on hiring one. Obviously it’s hard to know until after the fact if it was really worth the expense.
But I think I’d rather look back and think “I guess I didn’t need a DOC as much as I thought I might” rather than “It was a nightmare dealing with stuff on my wedding day…I wish I had hired a DOC!!”
Post # 7
I wish I would have hired a DOC for my wedding. I found my self stressed out all morning – trying to make sure everything was where is was supposed to be.
People kept coming to me with random questions all day… I wish I would have designated someone to take care of that so I could have just relaxed and enjoyed the day better.
Post # 8
My basic opinion is that you need somebody to be in charge on your wedding day. That somebody should not be you or Fiance or anyone else closely affiliated with the wedding like you parents, ILs, bridesmaid etc…
Hire a DOC or find someone (super organized Aunt Betty, college buddy who is not in the bridal party) to coordinate the day of. For me, there was no one to coordinate the day of so I hired a DOC.
Honestly, my DOC is paying for herself already. She has referred me to two great vendors who are saving us a lot of money. She also has run hundreds of weddings so she has a lot of information about timelines for the day of, how to deal with my catering company when I thought I might kill them last week etc etc… She’s been a lifesaver.
If you can’t find someone to be fully committed to run the whole show on the day of the wedding, hire a DOC! Good luck!