Post # 1
I’m already sold on hiring a DOC for wedding day, I know how I get when I throw parties and I don’t want a dozen to do lists and me running around like a crazy person or people calling me and asking directions to the church or the name of the hotel. My FH and my mom are not yet convinced that we need one.
So hive here is what I would like from you:
I need good solid reasons why I should hire a DOC to support my arguement.
I have two DOC that i am considering to hire, both are coming in around $850 and they offer similar services
* Initial consultation meeting
* Unlimited access via phone & Email
* Walk through of both church and venue
* Preparing wedding day timeline & checklist
* 12 Hours of service on Wedding Day
* Vendor confirmation and management on day of
* Set up decor/favors/place cards etc
* Vendor payments
How do i decide who to go with, other than personality? What questions should I be asking them during the interview process? Are there any services listed that aren’t really worth having? Are there any service that you feel should be included that isn’t listed?
Post # 3
So to answer your first question, I hired a DOC because I knew that someone needed to be in charge on the day of. I was not willing for that person to be me or my Fiance. I also did not want my parents, his parents or anyone in the bridal party to be in charge. I would argue that someone needs to hold this shindig together! If you have an Aunt Bethany who is just the sweetest, super organized and will coordinate all of the vendors, decorate, make sure groomsmen are dressed, sober and have bouts on etc etc that’s great, but it wasn’t the case for me.
I would argue to your Mom and FH that someone needs to coordinate vendors, decorate, make sure timeline is running well, be a contact person for vendors, deal with the unexpected etc etc Weddings have a million things that need to come together and a DOC would help you and everyone else feel less stressed. It will also help the day run smoother.
For the second question, I basically chose from personality. Both DOCs I considered offered similar packages, but I got along with one better than the other. Maybe take a look at the packages to see if there are any differences that matter to you and then meet with the DOCS.
Post # 4
We hired a DOC because we wanted everyone in our wedding party/family to be able to relax and really enjoy the day. We had plenty of people in our families that could have filled the role, but I wanted them with me relaxing and taking it all in, not out worrying if the flowers had been delivered. It was SO worth the cost.
I found that what really irritated me about our DOC leading up to the wedding was her ability to stay in contact. I would ask your prospective DOC’s that question. In the end, our DOC was great on the actual day, but about a month before our wedding, when we needed to go over details with her, she was unreachable for days at a time (phone and e-mail). It added so much stress to our plates, and looking back, I wish I had asked about that beforehand.
I would have phrased it like, “How often can we contact you with questions/problems the month leading up to our wedding and how do you prefer to be contacted?” See how they respond, and go with your gut.
Post # 5
I used this site as a guideline for my DOC questions http://weddings.ivillage.com/receptions/vendors/0,,bxlj1197,00.html.
I also would think that you’re possible choices should include rehearsal coordination in their package. My DOC did and she also helped with vendor negotiations for the services we hadn’t booked yet. If you want her contact info she can probably help you (she in NJ) with addtional details that you might want to consider asking your DOC to include. Good Luck!