Post # 1
My mom’s cousin, who FI and I like a lot but are not super close to, offered to be our videographer at our wedding. He is going to do it for free! But I have a few concerns. I know he is going to do a good job, as he prides himself on doing this. He was my Aunt’s videographer at her second wedding just two years ago, and seemed really attentive and good at it! But I’m a little worried about not going with an actual professional. I mean, its our wedding!
Should I accept his offer but also hire someone else to video at least the ceremony? I need some advice and some opinions!
Post # 3
I voted yes, assuming you’d seen his work. We used a friend for our wedding and she did a really good job (raw footage only, no editing, but that was fine with us). But I knew she would because I’d seen other videos she’d done.
There’s little doubt a pro would do a better job, and it comes down to how much you’re willing to pay and how important it is to you. We’re glad to have something, and I’m also glad I didn’t spend big bucks on a pro. But we also didn’t care too much if it didn’t work out. If a video is really, really important, I advise against using a friend or relative because of the awkwardness if they don’t do a good enough job.
Post # 4
My concern is that since he’s technically also a guest, it’s not going to be very fun for him if he’s spending the whole wedding behind a camera. It’s not like you only need footage from the ceremony; I assume you want fun, candid footage from the reception as well. This brings up another worry that is he going to be able to concentrate on doing a thorough, good job of shooting the event or is he going to be distracted by other family members and whatnot.
As PP mentioned, if he does a less than optimal job, then it will be awkward. You can’t express that you don’t like any part of it and it can cause drama in your family if it doesn’t turn out well.
Post # 5
@lilbluebird: Yeah my friend just did the ceremony, the reception speeches, and then maybe 10-15 minutes of candid footage during the reception, for about an hour altogether. (Which we were fine with). If you want a couple of hours worth it’s probably not a lot of fun for the guest.
Post # 6
I’d love it if somebody in the family could do this for us! I figure we’re probably not going to watch it that much anyways.
Post # 7
Family/Friends and business are a no for me. Just hire a pro or don’t have one at all.
Post # 8
It depends how important the turn out will be free means that if he gets sick or busts his camera or runs out of battery you will have nothing to show for it. There is no contract and you cannot complain. Also unless he does it professionally he may get in the way if your paid photographer ?
Post # 9
@starz88962: I think you should do it. I was surprised that we apparently even need a wedding video. I always thought an amazing photographer would be enough. I think as long as you have seen his work it should be fine.
Post # 10
Thanks for the feedback guys! So helpful. You all made me really think about what outcome I want from the video itself.
@paula1248: I will be happy not to spend the extra money. Honestly, I just want the ceremony and maybe a few toasts and some of our first dance on video, and maybe a few sweeping shots of the crowd, so when we watch it we can look back and remember everyone there. I don’t think I need a professional because you’re right, I don’t know if its worth the extra money!
@lilbluebird: You made an excellent point too, that he is technically a guest!! I want every guest to have a great time. But I don’t need the entire day from start to finish on video. He offered to do it — I can only hope he is up to the job! I’ll be sure to talk to him about what we are looking for and ask him if he’s sure he’s up to it.
@nativedesires: you bring up great points too!! Thanks so much for mentioning the camera troubles etc. Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong, right?! And the issue with getting in the way of the photographers… great point as well! This is going to be a tough decision!
Post # 11
It depends on if you’ve seen their work and are happy with it.
If you’re concerned about them having fun as a guest, just have them set up a tripod at the ceremony, press record as it starts and then sit down. Same for speeches. That way it doesn’t take away from them enjoying the moments and you also don’t get shaky video 🙂
Post # 12
If you want to keep this person as a family member, don’t let them do the video. Hire a professional. As a guest he is not going to be paying attention to some of the key moments of your day. He is not goint to know where to be to get those key shots, you walking up the aisle (the money shot), you won’t hear your vows (AT ALL), and does he know how ot edit a video? Will he just shoot the wedding and give it to you un edited? Let your family member be a family member and enjoy your day along with the rest of the family.