His 20 year ago, suicidal girlfriend. Ugh help

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee

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Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Djacks88:  I’d contact the husband! WOW I am soo sorry you are dealing with this. HUGS! I don’t even know what to say other then I am so sorry.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Can’t you report her for harassment?  That might be best because then she can get some help for the suicidal tendencies.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 1994

@Djacks88:  WOW.  That’s the most ridiculous situation I’ve ever heard of.  That’s rough.  

Has he considered calling the local authorities in her State? He should at least report it to someone and consider getting a restraining order on her. Things like this escalate extremely quickly and can get very dangerous very fast.  The last thing you want is her on your front porch with weapons.  

Edited for spelling mistake

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Why didn’t your husband block on her fb the moment it turned sour? How did she get the phone number? email address etc? Just seems strange that after 20 years she pops up but has your phone number and email. she’s a major stalker and I’d prob call a police precinct to get advise. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@crazylady:  yea I know but at least it can be “documented” in case she really loses her marbles. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think one of you should contact her family (not necessarily the husband) to let them know she is making suicidal statements. She may legitimately be suicidal, and simply blocking her could be dangerous for her. Block her after contacting someone.

ETA: Just saw that some of her messages state she literally has a gun held to her head. In that case, notifying her local police could result in a 72 hour hold and evaluation.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

If she is legitimately suicidal can’t they do a 5150 hold? Either way you can call the appropriate authorities and if she is not taken away she will atleast leave you alone because you called her bluff.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Djacks88:  forward all the chats, pics etc to her husband every single time she sends something – I guarantee she will stop.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Djacks88:  

Wow I’m so sorry you are going through this. I am not a law enforcement professional but took classes in grad school on stalking & this kind of behavior. My advice is

1) block her every way possible immediately

2) do not respond to her directly if she manages to get through the blocking (but make sure to record her contact in a notebook in case you need to get a restraining order later)

3) forward her suicide threats to her local police department and let them deal with it (if they come out and do enough welfare checks without your husband responding, she’ll likely get sick of it. Plus if she’s serious about the suicide you are helping save her iife)

4) if that doesn’t work, restraining order

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Call 911. They’ll lock that crazy bitch in the psych ward for up to 3 days. Then she will get the help that she desperately needs. The cops won’t do much but the hospital will for sure. After she gets put there, there will be a police record. Best of luck to you both.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

He should call the local authorities in her state. He needs to report it to someone. Sorry this is happening to you guys.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2000

@Djacks88:  

The police will get involved, not because of the harassment, but because of the threat of  ‘violence to themselves or others’. She may be having a breakdown. She may not have done anything like this in in those 20 years. This may not at all be typical on her part.

This is a cry for help, not a simple case of some random woman who can’t take the hint. I’m not saying this is at all a comfortable situation for yourself or your partner, but it is important to find the appropriate authorities to contact in addition to blocking her.

If she’s having extreme thoughts, please keep in mind there are children in the home as well. We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. She needs help and her children deserve for the adults around her to do something.

ETA: Just saw you mention you’re not sure where she lives, exactly. This does make things tricky. I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. I’d be stuck for an answer in your shoes too.

 

 

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