Post # 1
I thought that I was going to scream! So my BF and I were at his parent’s house the other night – and a few of his father’s co-workers were there – along with my BF’s sister, her new baby and her fiancé. He of course introduced them as “my daughter Emily and her family – Luke and Evan.” He then looks at us and laughs and says, “and this is my son and his, roommate.” I know that he was kidding – because everyone is wondering why we aren’t engaged yet – but seriously!! I wanted to cry…………………………….
I am so happy that I found this board – even though I don’t post frequently I do read it often and knowing that I am not the only one “waiting” and impatiently has helped !
Post # 3
It’s okay. My beloved grandmother referred to FI as my “friend” for five years until we got engaged ;o)
Post # 4
Oh man. So sorry. I had to deal with a lot of stuff like that too, and I know you just feel like punching people in the face. Or giving them a good kick in the kneecap…
Post # 5
Oh goodness. After dating my (then boyfriend, now fiance) for over a year, I was introduced at his graduation party as his friend. At least yours is a bit funny 🙂
Post # 6
Ugh! So sorry! I know how it feels because we went back to Maine for Christmas last year and FI’s Great Aunt introduced me as “his…um…friend”. We have been together for over 5 years!!!
Post # 7
haha my FMIL has introduced me twice as her son’s best friend. I’m certain she meant no disrespect by it, she’s just a bit old fashioned and all that jazz. His sisters had an intervention with her and told her to call me girlfriend. Now the fiancee thing removes all doubt!
Post # 8
a friend’s grandma referred to my now fiance as “the little black boy” I was “dating.” No lie. Thank GOD he has a sense of humor and chalked it up to intergenerational differences, and told me that she “meant nothing by it.” Uh good because I think I’d be arrested if I socked a 80-something year old in the face -_-
Post # 9
Oh no – so sorry. I think it was aimed more at your guy though. Look at the bright side – sounds like his Dad’s on Team boston_girl & thinks your guys should pop the Q. 🙂
Post # 10
LOL, at least he’s joking. My mom used to introduce my bfs as “just a friend”, and she meant it, too. She didn’t want people to think we were more than friends.. She is a bit old school; she thinks dating = marriage material and she was denying that. It hurt but whatever. At least his dad was joking. 🙂
Post # 11
Totally feel you on this one!
It seems the trend is to be introduced as “friend”… I don’t think we’ve gotten room/house mate yet.
BF and I have lightly flipped out on several parents, and his mom’s reasoning was “well I don’t know what to call you two”… I’m guessing maybe the parents feel “boyfriend”/”girlfriend” sounds too childish, or maybe not serious enough for being together for however long.
We like to make fun of it, “hi ‘friend’, how are you doing?”/”so, ‘friend’ how about that bang 3 nights ago?”/”hey ‘friend’, what do you want for dinner?”
A few days ago, he said that the security guard asked if I was his “friend”, and he said yes. I made fun of it, of course “just your friend?” and he says “well fiance… once I save up enough money”
Sometimes I wonder if it has to do with us being an interracial couple, but whatever.
Post # 12
Boston Girl, I’m sorry! So frustrating. If it makes you feel any better, my FI and I bought a house together and were living in the house for 2 years before he proposed. During this time, my dad thought it was just SO funny to refer to him as my “real estate partner”!! It’s funny now, but not so much at the time!
Post # 13
The worst is that it happens as such a suprise, you don’t have the cojones to say something like, “After 5 years, I think we can call me girlfriend.” Or something witty (I’m not witty,) like that.
Post # 14
This definitely sounds like a jab at your man and not you… sounds to me like his dad is telling him to get crackin with the ring 🙂
Post # 15
Mr. HCTS’s mom calls all of her sons’ girlfriends “friends” until we are actually married.
It makes us laugh, if nothing else.
Post # 16
My future SIL introduced me as her brothers GIRLFRIEND after we had been engaged for 4 months. I was furious to say the least! So I definitely know how it feels!