Post # 1
Ok, so I have been married almost a year, and we are happy as ever. I married my best friend! Right before the wedding I got weirded out and a little upset because my husband’s ex was trying to contact him and his brother and friends on FB. Whatever, I got over it, I am big girl. I may have been emotional because I planning a dang wedding!
Well, around the time we got married she had a baby (she has been married for a couple years), and the baby was very sick and they didn’t know if it would make it. My heart broke for her and her baby, my husband also felt really bad. I have read her blog here and there, and I know she has read mine. I finally got up the courage the other day to write to her and tell her I have no hard feelings, and I hope her, the baby and her family are doing well. It went over well, she was happy I wrote to her and explained to me things she felt when she was contacting my husband and what not. I got it, I went through the same things with my ex. You wonder about them, and want to know how they are.
All in all, I think me and this girl are a lot like. We have the same views in life and I could possibly get along with her as a friend. Is this weird? Is it wrong or weird of me to want to get to know my husband’s ex? I feel like it could be weird, but at the same time we are all grown up, we are all adults, and we are all happily married. I know my husband married me because he loves me.
I would appareciate it, if anyone has somewhat of the same situation or could reassure me I am NOT crazy!
Post # 3
I think you are really brave and a lovely human being for putting aside any negative feelings and reaching out to her! As far as being friends with her, I don’t think it’s necessarily weird but I would tread carefully with your husband and make sure it would be ok with him. It seems like it would really depend on the circumstances of their breakup, how long it’s been, etc.
Post # 4
you are not crazy. you are a very confident and mature person for doing that. more people should take your lead of openmindedness. good for you. i bet you felt so good releasing any of those residual negative feelings towards her.
Post # 5
Nope! Not crazy at all. Darling Husband and I are pretty close with his ex-gf. She’s a great girl, but she just wasn’t right for Darling Husband.
Post # 6
Definetly not crazy! who cares if she is an ex of your husband you are both married now so it shouldnt matter at all! I would be friends with her too if I were you it’s not easy to make friends later on in life so if you mesh I say go for it!
Post # 7
I don’t think you’re crazy. It seems like you’ve gotten some of the weirdness out of the way. My question is — has your husband maintained a relationship with her at all post-breakup? How would he feel about you two being friends?
Post # 8
If you can be friends and now that it is completely over, why not but only if you both agree and because mutual friends. We are really good friends with my ex husband and he comes over and watches sports with my Darling Husband. I could never do that with his ex because I know she still has feelings for him and it would open a whole can of worms,