Post # 1
I have a problem. A problem that doesnt amount to much – but still a problem.
My FH and I are setting up our house together. He has a 29 gallon salt water fish tank and two stuffed ducks that he is very proud of… (Two very expensive hobbies, might I add!)
The fish tank is huge and the stand/light is very modern. Our house is a traditional style and will be decorated traditionally. Its definitely going to look out of place.
The ducks… well… they’re ducks. One is a standing mount and the other is a flying wall mount. I can deal with the standing mount. He’s small. The flying mount is huge. I dont want our house to look like a hunting lodge.
I know that marriage is about compromises… and I definitely want to decorate with his interests included… but how is this possible?
My question is – how did you bees “mesh” your two styles together in your house? Did you have any similar problems? Help!!! Advice needed!
Post # 3
Hahahaha. You’re right, first world problem.
Do you have a basement or office/den that the ducks can go in? Put them in his space. I don’t do dead things either – unless they’re made into handbags, shoes, or fur coats (sorry, PETA).
As for the fish – that’s so cool. Maybe you can paint the stand to make it match? Fake distress it? Whatever you do don’t put it in your bedroom, that gets annoying – trust me. (ETA: 29gal is not huge. My dad had a 400gal tank at one time. That was huge – it was the size of a couch, and made a good room divider with a couch against it.)
My style problem – I like our house to look like young professionals live there, not college students. He doesn’t like to spend money on ANYTHING. It’s a struggle. 🙂
Post # 4
I would be totally thrilled with the fish tank and the ducks. I say put up with them, they re a reflection of who your Fiance is.
Post # 5
Do you have a man cave or office the ducks could go in?
As for the fish tank – I think a well-maintained salt-water tankw tih its colorful fish would be awesome!
Post # 6
Find a nice stand for the fish tank that you can both agree on. 29 gallons is pretty small really.
Post # 7
I think a fish tank would go with any type of decor. Can the ducks go in the garage? They would creep me out!
Post # 8
@Mrs.KMM: MAN CAVE! He needs his mish-mosh area full of testosterone. Even if it’s in the garage (LOL). It’s all how you word it.
“Honey, i really want you to have your own special space that’s just for you- a place where you can escape when you need to. You can put your fishtank, we can get you a new (fooseball/pool table/video games), and you can decorate it with things that are special to you”
It would take all my inner power not to yell “GET THAT UGLY DUCK OUT OF MY LIVING ROOOM!!”
Post # 9
Welcome to marriage, the bizarre co-mingling of personal style….I bought my house before I met Mr. 99 and since I had resigned myself to a fabulous life of being single I had it remodeled and decorated to my taste which runs heavily in the post modern movement, sleek scandanavian furniture, a bright color pallet and unframed canvas from my various travels..it was terribly sophisticated, simple and gorgeous….
I meet Mr. 99, a cowboy if there ever was one, and here he comes, with Southwestern art, heavy furniture, guns, hunting dogs, boots, dream catchers and more plaid than you could shake a REALLY big stick at….I wanted him to feel like it was HIS house too, and gave him carte blanche to put what he wanted, where he wanted…
So now our house is Country Fried Modern, and as weird as it sounds, it kinda works, we kinda like it and it represents us, a partnership between sophistication and sandpaper.
Post # 10
Can you decorate the garage with the ducks and fish tank?
Post # 11
Oh my god all I have to say is that Darling Husband has a saltwater fish tank (25gal) and I hate it. It looks fine and people are impressed when they come over, but I’m jealous of the amount of time and money that he puts into that stupid thing. If we divorce it will be because of 25 gallons of coral, crabs, snails, and fish.
Post # 13
I’ve asked my mom to accidently break a painting I hate when we move next week. I think that’s not the healthiest way out of the situation, but it’s the only way that truly fugly/borderline creepy thing is ever going to exit the house
Post # 14
I LOVE having a saltwater tank. Darling Husband was the original one to want it, but now I’m the one that deals with it the majority of the time. We’ve got a 90 gallon though, and it’s in the basement. It’s only there because we have hardwood all upstairs and would prefer it on a tile floor. Our next house we want a several hundred gallon in wall tank.
It’s not a huge ordeal – if you have a basement, put it there. If not, try to put it in a room with tile or a solid surface floor. I highly recommend this, as when you do water changes or end up with water on the floor it will be a lifesaver.
Depending on what light fixture, maybe you could talk him into making a hood for the tank. There are so many solutions to fix “ugly lighting”.
The stuffed ducks.. I’m not sure what to say. Maybe they should go in a spare bedroom or downstairs too.
Darling Husband had to deal with my lizards when we started living together. They now have their own “bedroom” in the basement and that’s where they stay. Keeps them out of the way (and behind a closed door), but I can enjoy them when I want. Now he collects computer crap, so I’ve dedicated the spare bedroom closet to all his stuff.
Post # 15
Like PPs said, maybe try to find a room that’s completely his? A mancave or whatever?
SO really likes dragons, anime, swords and the like. He has this GIANT dragon statue that he absolutely loves and an enormous poster of Cloud from Final Fantasy, I’m talkin’ huge here ladies. I told him when we can get rid of my roommates (I have 2 extra bedrooms in my condo) that one of those rooms has his name alllll over it and he can do whatever the hell he wants/put whatever he wants in there lol
Post # 16
I have fish as well, and thankfully my Darling Husband doesn’t mind since my tank is 112 gallons and I’d like to go up to a 300 in the future 🙂 He is also not remotely a fish person and the hobby is entirely mine.
For me it’s not about decorating though, my fish are my babies just as much as my cat and dog are, and they’re important to me. I would probably be royally pissed if my Darling Husband suggested I put my aquarium in the basement or garage.
I’d probably put the fish in the living room somewhere, it’s such a little tank to make room for, and you can kind of tuck the ducks somewhere so they blend in with your decor instead of standing out. I prefer antique furniture and a mix of traditional and modern and I don’t think one tank is going to ruin your style.