(Closed) His involvement in decorating our home…is frustrating!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

haha I feel like linking this to the cohabitation post 😛

Girl I agree with you. I think that you could ease him into it. He sounds like he might have a bit of an attachment issue with things. I help my husband with this. how about you try moving things out.. TEMPORARILY. See how he feels. Say “I understand you love these books and like to have them on display. But when is the last time you truly used them? Why don’t we meet in the middle, and move one bookshelf and the books to a closet and see what the space is like without them. If you are going in and out of the closet for the books after a while, we’ll bring it back!”

HE WILL NEVER USE THE BOOKS. I’ll just tell you that right now, ha. But he’ll realize you’re right and let you make more executive decisions. Sometimes people just need a little kick in the butt to change. My DH trusts my editing skills now, and asks that if I have to thin stuff out (like his clothes, for example), that I just do it and don’t show him what’s going. That way he doesn’t miss it.

Post # 6
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Rent a storage locker for a while. If you start forgetting what’s in there you’ll know it’s okay to get rid of it.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wish I could give advice but since moving in with my SO a little over a month ago, we’ve been having an opposite issue!

Not be be sexist and define a man and a womans role, but my man was begining to fight me over curtain styles and decor aspects which are typically a womans domain (and I don’t mean he resists flowers and colors etc.. I mean he’s “Oh but I prefer this color with this piece of furniture, or I like the furniture placed in such a way and they often aren’t the way I had pictured/planned a space haha) While I do appreciate him wanting to be involved and interested in our home.. some days I think it would be so much easier if he was a “do whatever you like, honey” kind of guy lol

 

 

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