His Mother is buying things for our future wedding

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m glad you’re taking this as a good sign…I’d be livid if my FMIL bought wedding things like this for me without talking to me first.

Here’s hopign there’s a ring soon!

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@abbie017:  +1 I’d be really annoyed, since who’s to say they’re even what you want?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

LOL his mother didn’t buy any wedding stuff, but she gave us baby clothes and a book about taking care of children at our wedding.

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Bumble bee

My ex’s mother did this – we actually ended up breaking up without getting engaged, but I don’t think its a bad sign, that’s nice that she’s excited! Are her children only men?

You’ve got a good attitude about it! PS if you hate the stuff, ask her to use it at a shower.

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Helper bee

I think it’s sweet. I’m always worried that my SO’s parents don’t like me or that I’m not someone they see their son marrying. So if I found his mom collecting stuff like that, and I was sure it was meant for me, I’d be pretty excited. At the same time, I do see how other bees might take it negatively. SO’s brother got married in 2011 and I heard stories that his brother’s then-fiance constantly had to battle the mom to get her way. 

I think it also depends on the kind of stuff and your ideas for the wedding. If they don’t clash with what you’re going for, why not let her have her fun? But if you want to do it all on your own, be gentle when eventually you talk to her. Remember that she might have built up her son’s wedding in her head almsot as much as you have. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would freak the frick out if my MIL had done that… I’m gald you’re taking it well!

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Buzzing bee

I think it sweet, but I would not like it if my FMIL did this, mainly as I am super picky and already know exactly what I want.

It’s lovely that you are happy to include her, especially as you said she has two sons and didn’t get to be a part of her other sons wedding.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My mom is doing this too! And his mom is always putting stuff away and telling us that it’s for us for when we move out together haha. This Christmas, the majority of my gifts were for ‘us’ for our future :)

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Buzzing bee

@IslandGirl6:  Hopefully she’ll feel involved and won’t try to take over…you never know!

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