Post # 1
His parents are convinced I am the devil. I’ve only been super nice to them. However, they have never been welcoming to me. When we have to all be together they are passive aggressive towards me. When I first met his father, I made him a cup of coffee and he spit it out in front of everyone…it was really embarrassing. When she doesn’t think I hear her over the phone, he tells my fiance “she is the way she is because she has no mother.” (My mom died when I was a teen.) Anyway…I’m exhausted over trying to understand their pathology. My fiance I know doesn’t like them, however they rely on him financially, emotionally etc. They are really barbarians in my opinion and I never say this outloud I am just so pissed off right now. He can’t “abandon” them because then what kind of son would he be? (I mean, at least that’s what I know is going on in his mind.) If I could sum it up I am COMPLETELY over the moon about my fiance except for his parents, their proximity to where they live and their influence over him, their tight grasp on him and everything about them. What can I do to stay sane? What can I do to keep him and I tight? What can I do to keep my dignity!!???
Post # 3
Can you two move out of the area?
Post # 4
No..at least it’s not going to happen anytime soon…
Post # 5
Can’t he step up and tell them that they’re mistreating you? DH would never let anyone, especially his parents, talk to/about me like that without standing up for me.
Post # 6
@sda519: dear lord thats awful!!! u poor thing. once your married try and distance yourselves from them slowly more and more over time. thats just terrible. their loss!!!!!
Post # 7
Oh gosh this sounds terrible ! I woulsago round without your fiancé and tell them that you love their son and intend to marry him and be with him for the rest of your life. I would also tell them what they say and do makes you feel sad and uncomfortable , and if they still don’t ease up ask your fiancé to speak to them . Do not let them ruin your relationship they will be the losers in the long run , you sound so strong I would of throttled them !
Post # 8
If your FI won’t stand up for you to his parents, ask yourself whether you’re willing to put up with this same stuff for the next 40 years. Ask yourself if you’re willing to have them disrespect and insult you in front of your children. Then decide if you really want to marry into this dysfunctional family circus.