- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
My FI is Swiss/Brazilian and we are planning a traditional Catholic wedding in America. My mother generously offered to print the invitations for us since most of our attendees are from Ohio, but since I am a designer of course I haaave to do them in Switzerland to make sure they are up to my standards. Anyway, we came up with our text:
Dr. Papa and Mama Diamondscan
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Mr Joe Smith
John and Jane Smith
on Saturday 29 October 2011 at 9:00am
…at such and such church, etc.
FI translated them into German and Portuguese since we are doing a trilingual trifold invitation and we sent them to his parents to have them help correct the grammar.
Last night, his parents rang on the phone and they are UPSET that the invitation wording makes it sound like my parents are hosting, and not both sets hosting together. Um, duh! My parents ARE hosting and paying for the church wedding and reception!
FI tried to make the point that my parents will be upset if we put both sets of parents hosting at the top because it makes it look like they are contributing $ when they are not. It’s not that my parents are paying for everything either… They didn’t want to contribute any money to a photographer because they think that’s a waste of $ and wouldn’t pay more than $100 for a wedding dress, so FI are paying for the wedding photographer, our attire and accessories, invitations, rings, flights to the US, etc. When you add it all up, we are probably paying ½ of the wedding costs ourselves, but since my parents are paying a good portion, I’m totally fine with them being at the top like traditional invites say.
FI’s parents are hosting/paying for the rehearsal dinner and that is it. If they want to do an invite for that, they can say they are the only ones hosting, whatever!
It kind of pisses me off that they think they can demand it be done their way when that insults the people who ARE contributing. They just kept telling the FI that this isn’t how invites are worded and it’s wrong and we need to change it to make it more fair.
How about they contribute $10,000 and then it really is fair to put them on there?? Lord knows FI would have appreciated help paying for expensive things like rings and professional photogs.
Argh, sorry if this upsets anybody but I’m ticked off. I thought we were being kind putting their names on the invites at all and they just have to complain about it!
Why do people who don’t contribute have to meddle??