His Parent's Aren't Coming to the Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
2882 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would have a long talk with your FI about what he wants to do.  Family issues are best delt with by the side that is causing the issue. Your FI will know best what to do with his family, and he will also be the one to gage how important it is to him to fight this battle.

As far as inviting more of your family, don’t.  Your family will feel B listed (and technically are at this point) Also, if his family does change their minds, which might happen, they won’t have seats anymore.   It’s kind of a no win situation.

Post # 3
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

BohoMama:  I am so so so sorry you are dealing with this NOW.  It upset me reading your post!!!  I think the best thing you can do is move on, keep your head held high, and enjoy these last few weeks.  I think it is incredibly sad, and frustrating that his own parents cannot ‘suck it up’, and attend your marriage – knowing you did so much to accommodate them.  But, I think for the sake of all involved, I would tell myself that I would rather them NOT be there, then be there and be miserable, or panicked, etc.  

This is NOT the same thing by any means, but my paternal grandparents, whom are physically healthy, and ‘younger’ did not attend our ceremony and reception due to anxiety.  Anxiety is a serious illness, of which keeps them shut in their own home, but for awhile I could not understand how or why they would miss it?!  I had arranged rides, even asked them to please just attend the ceremony.  No pics required, etc.  But, they just would not.  I finally had to tell myself what I stated above…it is better for them, and better for us to stay at home.

I know it is hard to wrap your head around right now, but maybe it will be a blessing in disguise.  Everyone will be more relaxed?!  I would NOT beg them to change their mind, and instead reaching out to other close people and explaining why you had not originally invited them, but would love for them to attend.  I know I would understand…good luck.

Post # 4
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858 posts
Busy bee

This is terrible! WEll i hope ( and i say with with all sincere feelings) that you two learned that you have to do things for you and not for everyone else. You are missing out on “your” type of wedding becuase you were way to accommodating and now they are not coming!!

But like said above, maybe it is a blessing in disguise. It is what it is, and just enjoy the night and the moments!

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