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I don't really have any ideas, except that you and your BF should sit down and have a talk about this and set up some ground rules; like how often and for how long they can visit. Family is really important to a lot of people, and if you an your BF are planning to get engaged and eventually get married, this is something that you are going to have to come to terms with because once you marry him, they will be your family too.
i know how you feel my fiance and i live 5 hours from his mother brother and sister OH and did mention his mother is preggers!!!! ya well she is here at least 1 month is not more and now she is consiering moving here and no less across the street from us!!!!! OH THE INSANSITY!!!!! and oh ya every time there here his little sister steals my stuff 3 years ago she stole 50 dolars from my purse, she has stolen make up from me and earings!!! i have had my fiance talk to her but yet she still does it
If they're his family, he should be the one to tell them it's unacceptable for them to treat your home as a hotel (particularly when not invited by the homeowner). It sounds like it may be too late at this point, but maybe before they leave he should set some ground rules
If you have a house that is large enough to accomodate them, I can't imagine that he would even want to suggest that they stay at a hotel or some thing if they were coming to see him. I would never suggest that to anyone that was coming into town specifically to see me or FI. If they were coming in and crashing with you guys to go see other people, and come and go on their own schedule that conflicts with yours, then I could see maybe suggesting that they not stay there. But even so, unless there was no room, I'd still let them stay - hotels can be expensive.
I'd be careful of suggesting they dont stay with you also, he may see it that you are not welcoming to his family.
How far do they live? Do they plan on coming to visit a lot more? What exactly are the issues that you have when they are there? Maybe he can talk to them about those specific things to make the stay more pleasant.
They will have the living room full of air mattresses. His sister comes about 5 times a year. His brother, only once. I am more the life of the party type (though I don't drink/smoke) and he and his sibs are more sedate. It seemed really intensified during the last visit, two weeks ago.
A month or so ago, BF said he would propose to me on July 3rd. Then, a few days prior, he said no, he wasn't going to. And he didn't. This has been a sore spot since then. Having his sister here for 5 days in a row just made our couple problems harder. I'm not saying the world is ending because he didn't propose. I just don't find I have a lot in common with his sibs and it is hard for me because nobody else seems to want to let their hair down.
Hopefully it gets better once they leave. Since they really don't visit that often, I'm gonna have to say I think you need to be the bigger person and make the best of it while they are here. And if anything is going to cause stress to the realtionship that can really make or break it, better now than later. You guys will work this out and be even stronger! Look at this like a nice little stress test. 
Good luck!
... you could always come to the hive to bitch when they get to be too much!
I don't have that problem because I run an animal sanctuary. Even though the cats mostly hang around outside, apparently a multitude of animals puts them off. Breaks my heart, NOT!
@bluespurrs: do you mean your company stays away because of all your furry friends? or were you responding to a different post?
Hey all! The weekend actually went pretty well. I took time away from the three of them on Saturday and again on Sunday. We also spent lots of time together, going to a saturday market, a movie, out to dinner and bowling. They took off this morning and will be back on Thursday. So...it worked out. Haven't had a chance to de-brief with sweetie yet, we'll see how that goes.
They're baaacccckkkk! And, seven hours in, I am already SO ready for them to leave. Damn.
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Hi. This weekend my bf's sister and brother are coming for the weekend. They will be back for the following weekend. She was here two weekends ago. Enough already! (Did I really say that outloud?
We are in a relationship. We have been discussing marriage. The sister's visit two weeks ago created a lot of stress and tension between us. I am looking for ways to deal with this weekend, which I am dreading. They'll be going to a baseball game, and
BF knows I won't be going with. So that's some hours to myself. They will be staying at our house (as always) so I will have to have strategies to create the space I need.
Ideas I have are, go out to breakfast on Saturday with a friend, go to a matinee with a friend, primal scream...oh, wait, that wouldn't be too subtle.
I feel like I am facing an invasion. And we are in limbo about getting married or not (should take that date of my profile. Sorry.)
I look forward to any ideas you folks have. He and I have been talking about it and it hasn't been real helpful.