Hi guys, thank you all so much for the advice, I thought I would let you know my update.
Firstly, to be honest, I didn’t even think of the possibility of throwing an engagement party ourselves, I thought that would be considered forward and pushy, the only engagement parties I’ve ever been to were quite grand affairs and thrown by the parents, so I guess I was a little naive, but I thought that was the “done” thing. Thanks for the heads up that it’s not such a big deal these days. I am equal first of my friends to get married (one is also engaged and just starting looking at venues etc) and all these websites make it all sound so serious! Now I’m realising it’s a bit more anything goes.
So my hunch was right, and my bf did propose in Europe! It was in the last week, and I really didn’t think he was going to as he didn’t broach the subject once and he can’t keep secrets at all lol. On our last day of Prague however, he did!
Once we’d calmed down from the excitement, we discussed how to let everyone know, and both agreed we didn’t want our families to find out via fb so we kept it private until our arrival home.
First, was my parents and they were completely thrilled! His parents however, not so much. When we told them the news, his mum kind of sighed and rolled her eyes and went back to discussing what she had done over the holidays. My fiance asked if she wanted to see the ring (he ended up working overtime to buy me a new one which he’s very proud of) and her response was, yeah I can see it, I was about 10 meters away at the time. His Dad kind of just said oh cool (but in fairness it was on his 50th birthday, he was about to go back to China so we couldn’t really delay it, but at the same time we didn’t want to detract from his birthday so we kept very cool about it. His parents are split.) and he also said “is it indefinitely again this time?” but when we told him we already had a rough time line in mind, he seemed a bit happier. His mum didn’t even give me a hug or anything, and she’s usually a very affectionate person. I was a bit irritated with her too as we were seeing his Aunties and Uncles the next day and asked her to keep it quiet until we told them, but when we arrived to see them they all said congratulations (at least they seemed more excited)
I brought it up afterwards with my fiance that I was a bit hurt, and he also pointed out to me something that I had not thought of. His mum has had a few serious relationships in her life (around 5-10 years), but has never been engaged, because no one has asked her. He was wondering perhaps hearing the news from her son made her reflect on that.
After all the family stuff, we had around 8 of our closest friends over and told them the news. They were ecstatic, and we had a few drinks and ended up partying all night. I think I am going to take that as my “engagement party” due to the luke warm responses and just play it cool until all the wedding stuff starts. We have been living together for a long time anyway, so I don’t think getting engaged is such a big deal. I’m happy to wait until my hens night to celebrate, and I am hoping his mum comes to the party a bit more when we have booked in our venue and started getting the ball rolling. If not, oh well, we have plenty of love and support around us and our decision, not the least of course, each other 🙂
The one thing I’m glad of is no “hope you have it right this time” comments as of yet! haha
Thankyou all xo