- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’m closing in on my first month of marriage! My husband and I are having a blast overall, but not without some heartache and friction over his sister.
His parents love me and treat me like one of their own. Actually, better! They’re very sweet. His sister, on the other hand, pretty much despises me and does little to hide it.
Some background on her: She’s in her 40’s, never married, never left home–despite having advanced degrees and a well-paying career. She seems to me a little socially awkward though, like, she’s very “little girl-ish”. While I was dating her brother, we didn’t clash, though they live on the other side of the country so we also didn’t see each other very often.
The day we got engaged though, it was though a light had been switched off. She scowled at me, responded to my attempts to make conversation with one- or two-word answers, and left any room I entered. The parents and my fiance (now husband) have talked to her about it many times and she has confirmed to them that she hates me, but is unable to explain why.
This did not change on our wedding day. Actually, she met my entire family with the same coldness and distain. On the day of, I said hello to her, and complimented her on her dress (I know, why bother, right?) and she muttered some thanks back at me. Let me stress this–I’m standing there in my effing WEDDING DRESS, about to marry HER BROTHER, paying her a compliment and she can’t even find one positive thing to say to me.
So I’m fed up. I don’t want to cause derision in his family, but I’m not going to spend my free time with someone who treats me like that. My husband agrees that she’s not invited over to our house until her attitude changes. He totally supports this. We’ll also cut back the number of times we visit them, and even stay at a hotel instead of the house.
Just one minor thing though. I overheard that my husband accepted a gift of $500 from her as a wedding present. My instinct is to rip into him to return it. The thought of writing that woman a thank you card is just too revolting for me, in light of how awful she has been. It seems inappropriate to accept money from someone who mistreats your wife, no matter who they are. Reaction?