(Closed) “His Time”

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Have you considered proposing to him?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Maybe by his time he means its his one thing he gets to do with the wedding is the proposal. Most guys (mine excluded) really enjoy the part of the proposal so maybe hes waiting until you are not expecting it.

Because you guys want to be married in feb maybe ask if its ok to start planning before he offically proposes. And there is no reason you cant go dress shopping while you are with your mom in july anyway!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

July 13 is not here yet… It sounds like he will do it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It sounds like he wants to do it, and is on his way to proposing… maybe he hasnt quite got enough saved for the ring yet??

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I think he is just throwing you off?

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My fiance told me he could not afford a ring and that I was just going to have to wait.  We went to the beach for  a week and I kept saying “this has been the perfect day” with the eye brow raises but nothing….  He had our neighbors and best friends bring the ring down with them a couple days after we got there and then on 4th of July at 1am (it just took him that long to get the right moment) he finally proposed!!

 

Don’t give up hope! He is probably just trying to surprise you.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

It’s not July 13th yet!  So why would you be getting upset before that deadline?  He’s still got a week!  Early to be upset.

And if he doesn’t propose by July 13 – no problem you can happily say yes and ask when he wants to do the wedding… a good while after February.  He gets to pick the proposal time (if you’re going to let him propose) but he doesn’t get to pick the other stuff.  You lose out on getting the proposal right when you want it, he loses out on having the wedding when he wants it – in the long run neither of those are that important and both of you will survive.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think he is probably trying to throw you off.  It sounds like he wants to marry you with all the wedding talk, guys just don’t like their girls to know that the proposal is coming.  They want it to be a suprise.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If he is really traditional, my guess is that the ring is either not ready or he doesn’t have the cash quite yet to order it. Mine took 10 weeks to come in. He sounds very serious about you, so I would try really hard to be patient.

Even if he proposes in the late summer, you can plan a wedding for February. Generally there are more options in the winter, you’ll just have to be organized and a little flexible.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Heck look at me.  I’m planning a wedding in a month and a half!  I had to rearrange everything due to the oil spill on the gulf!

You can do it!

But seriously, I’d in a sneakily way find out what “his time” is defined as.  Imho kinda cryptic.   

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

my husband drove me to the point of total freakout!! we went to texas for vacation, and he had the ring(and i knew it), on our last night, he still hadn’t proposed.. i went to bed and cried myself to sleep, and i know he knew it!! less than 2 weeks later, he proposed.. we didn’t get the venue i wanted, or the dress i wanted, or really anything else i wanted except for him… but i had him, and i was happy… it’ll happen, so do whatever you can to keep your cool, because if you loose it, it could push it out even further!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Dont get too discouraged. Even if it doesnt happen by July 13th at least you know its on his mind and its coming soon. Maybe you can have a talk with him find out if everything is still on for feb ’11 and if what he thinks about looking at venues early given the special circumstances of a destination wedding.

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