Post # 1
I don’t really care about the WP being exact but my brother will be a GM and now I want to add a BM. I have 3 right now. FI has 3 sisters, but that’s another story. I won’t ask the 3 of them, just 1? or one of my friends that I didnt ask? This is so hard!!! What would you do?
**1 of my fsil is getting married 3 months before me, and they are all in her wedding.
Post # 3
i don’t think you can ask just one of them – i would ask all three and have an uneven wedding party.
Post # 4
@loveknows: I would ask all the sisters or none of them. I think it would just create drama to ask only 1
Post # 5
Well, I wouldn’t like it if my boyfriend picked only one of my brothers and not the other. Wouldn’t want him to think we like the other more.. so I agree with PP’s all of them or none at all!
Then again, what kind of relationship do you have with the three sisters? Are you close to all of them?
Post # 6
If you want to go with a sibling included, maybe you could tell them that while you would like to have them all up there, you want to keep the wedding party small, so you are you going to have one sister represent the family. You could pick a name out of a hat or let them pick among themselves.
Post # 7
@Miss Marbles: Same question as her.
I think if you have close relationships with them, then ask them. If not, I don’t think they would feel offended if they weren’t asked.
Plus, they have a wedding right before, so it might be a bit of a financial stress to have to buy more bm dresses.
Post # 8
No, not really. Actually, we’ve been spending more time talking and hanging out now than we ever did the 3 years FI and I were dating. So its more of a relationship that is starting to develop now.
Post # 9
@tranquility: That is exactly what I thought.
Post # 10
Either ask all or none for being BM’s. If none maybe incorporate them somewhere else in your wedding