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So ladies...for a few years now I have been thinking about getting a breast augmentation and I was discussing this with the FI and of course he is hugely for it. I was thinking maybe getting it done before the wedding but then i went to a few consults and thought "Is this what I really want? To be a part of a plastic generation whose self esteem is based on doctor given features rather than God given beauty?" I am relatively small chested (34A) and would love to be more endowed for my personal reasons, not for more attention for men or to show them to the world but another part of me, the down to earth tom boy inside, doesn't mind the small boobs so much because they are natural and I don't wanna feel 'fake' for lack of a better word. Another slap in the face is they are about $7000. Thats a chunk of change, I was a single mom for about 3 years before i met the FI (had my little girl at 16..eeep) I know killer young but I digress. Being a single mom, going to school full-time and working as much as a full time job as I could to still be able to make it home to cook dinner has set me in my ways of hard core penny pinching and that is a lot of money to let go of even tho the FI makes really good money part of me feels wrong for allowing him to purchase such things for me bc I am hugely independent and am very use to providing for myself. Please share your thoughts bees
I've always considered it, I'm sort of a low B. But I don't know if I could ever justify the expense. Especially since I want lasik and laser hair removal too.
ha funny you should mention both of those because I am in that same boat for lusting after both of those...maybe I should have decided to marry a plastic surgeon instead of a welding inspector hahah strictly joking, my FI is great...minus the Call of Duty addiction
I think thats a very personal choice and only you can decide. Im not against plastic surgery, im just not really a fan of breast implants. Something to think about are the fact that its not only a one time surgery, they have to be replaced every 10 years or so. Also, not everyones body does well with them. My sisters hair dresser got them and shortly after had to have them removed. My acting coach had them years ago and also had them taken out, she now tells everyone not to get them.
Yeah, I've heard the same thing july about having to replace them every 10 years. I wouldn't want to have an additional 3+ surgeries in my lifetime that I don't need.
I say if it makes you happy and your FI wants to help you with the cost then go for it. My cousin's wife had it done and she looks very natural and is a full C and loves it. She did it prior to meeting my cousin and did it more for her own self-confidence than anything else. Not sure if that helped any, but good luck!
I have thought about it. When i got pregnant and after I had my son, my boobs ballooned to a HUGE E/F! I couldn't even find nursing bras big enough, online, anywhere. So, needless to say, after they went back to their normal size, a C, i wasn't too happy! They seem really small now, but thats not what really bothers me. They are saggy! I have old saggy mom boobs at 22! So i looked into getting mine done, went and talked to the dr and everything. I have decided to wait though. I do want more kids, so who knows what toll they will take on my boobs! Also, the dr told me that he would do them, but more than likely, because of the "life" of boobs, I would have to get them done again at about the age of 40. So, for now, i'm waiting. If i still want them fixed after more kids than maybe, but i'm with you, its strictly for me, not other men or the world. But i also like the "reallness" of mine and don't want to be fake at all.
@rosiegirl I dont want to give you a suggestion when you didnt even ask, but why not a breast lift? I know alot of women have problems after having kids, I would definitly consider a breast lift after I have kids if im unhappy with my boobs. That way you dont have to put foreign objects in your body
I was actually thinking of a breast lift instead! that is actaully a better idea because then i don't think i would feel so fake, and my boobs aren't that bad of a size on their own (even though they still feel WAY small compared to what they were!!!)
A friend of mine got a breast augmentation and loves it. She was very flat-chested and hated that clothes never fit. She went from about an A to a C cup. You actually couldn't tell once she had got them done---she just looked normal, with an average size chest. She actually stood in front of me and said "Can you tell what is different" and I couldn't guess. But she says all the time how she feels so much more confident because of it.
I think the goal should be to make you feel like you. My friend felt most like herself when she had a medium-sized chest, which she got through surgery. What feels most like you?
I would just make sure to keep them natural! Otherwise you can get into back problems, or just looking "unbalanced" :-)
My SIL had an augmentation (went up to a B, so yeah, she was small!) and loves them. They look very natural (being a DD myself i'm pretty good at spotting the fake ones) and you wouldn't knwo they weren't real unless she told you. The high profile, extra full on top, etc kinda gives it away. I'd go visit a few plastic surgeons and get ALL the dish. 7K sounds a little high to me--in StL the price for that is 4500 to 5000, not too bad.
I'm all for plastic surgery. If you want it, can afford it, and have seriously given it some thought (and your SO is on board, which it sounds like he is!) i'd go for it. DH already knows i'm having a mommy makeover after i'm done with kids, lol...i'm over it. Gotta do what makes YOU happy and if you think a new rack will give you the boost (no pun intended lol) you want, you deserve that. Every woman deserves to be happy with their body for the right reasons and if a little bit of work can do that for them, all the more power!
If I can offer a slightly different perspective, I have really disliked the breast augmentation I have experienced (not on me, but on partners). There are two big problems. One is that it may make you less sensitive. The other is that augmented breasts never feel really natural--they are too hard. I can't imagine wanting something that would interfere with intimate moments in those ways.
@ejs the surgeons I went to were in STL, I only live about an hour away or so I chose to drive up there for my consults, made a day of it and what not. I definitely don't want to go too big. What surgeons have quoted the price you are talking about. Obviously I am much more concerned with quality than price in this case but I would like to look into them and there previous patients.
I would keep he new size pretty modest, nothing like an A to a DD. I have felt the new silicone that is now being used and the even new cohesive gel that is still in trial both were patients of one of the doc's in STL and I was surprised at how natural they feel but yes there is definitely a little difference, as there should be its a foreign object.
As someone who has ballooned in the first 20 weeks of pregnancy, I would kill for your size. I went from a 36C (which I already hated and thought was too big) to a 38D or DD. It's AWFUL!
You should be happy with whatever you decide, but know that the grass isn't always greener... even just as a C ...
Regarding the "breast lift" they leave ridiculously obvious scars, I guess at some point you do it anyway but Ive never seen one that didnt look really, really scarred.
I too am very small chested 32A, but many of my friends who are naturally endowed, have considered breast reductions, I feel it's one of those things where you are never quite happy with what you have... I think small breasts are convenient, and as my FH says "more than a handful is a waste" Gotta love him.
I wish mine were bigger, well, or at least didn't look so dang far apart. I'm a 36/38 c, and on my frame it just looks small. They're really far apart as well... stupid broad chest.
Mr. Scissors is MAJORLY against me getting a boob job, and loves them the way they are. Oh well!
I dont know... i think they seem nice.
Me? Personally? I want them but i want to wait until after i have all my kids.. bc they are upkeep.
I have no advice either way, but DEFINATELY make sure youre ready for them, and make sure you see a good doctor! I used to be a bra fitter and i saw some horrendous boob jobs
au naturale all the way. i am against plastic surgery, unless it's for reconstruction because something bad happened to you.
You want to tear open your chest when you don't have to? And put plastic in there that will interfere with mammograms? And will feel unnatural? And could have all kinds of side effects? And then repeat the process every decade for the rest of your life?
Okay. If it's worth it to you.
But I have seen breast augmentations (while they are happening) and they are not pretty.
I'm a 33A- (yup, bigger than a 32 and smaller than a 34, and not quite an A cup). I am sometimes insecure that my FH would secretly like me to have bigger breasts, but I have made peace with my boyish figure and so should he.
Plus, us petite breasted women can buy $7 junior high bras at Target in pretty colors! My cup runneth over.
Miss Seq- I just burst out laughing at your post and nearly spilt my drink over my laptop! FH just asked what I was laughing at and I couldnt bring myself to tell him the topic.
I really think each to there own. Im C cup and honestly I wish they were smaller.. But FH is of the adament opinion they are just fine.And in the scheme of things, to me its not a big issue.
But for you, you do whatever you need to do, to make yourself feel the best you need to be. Ill be on the sidelines if you need encouragment. either way. YOU GO GIRL!!
I say rock what you have!!!
I'm a 34A and I love them. My sister is a DD, and she has always hated them. She said men never look her in the eye, she's uncomfortable wearing tank tops or anything that on me, wouldn't be revealing but on her, is very revealing. Since she's skinny, her button down shirts never fit - she has to buy them too big so they'll button but then it looks like she's swimming in them. She always said that even though she wasn't fat, her boobs made her look fat and she used to talk about getting a reduction. I think growing up with her and hearing her constantly bemoan them made me thankful for what I have. Had I been born with bigger ones, that would be cool too, as long as they didn't get in my way! I'm not a big fan of plastic surgery, but to each their own.
But think of Kate Hudson... that girl has nada up top and doesn't even try to fake that she does with bras or anything. That's self confidence. And that's WAY sexier than fake boobs!
I've got to weigh in on this one. I am a 32A and I mean barely an A. My FI and I have talked about it and I would love to go up to a C nothing bigger. Also its an ongoing discussion in our house, its pretty ridiculous its something that I think will happen eventually I just don't know when. I feel it would boost my confidence and I would enjoy them. My FI is of course all for it. I haven't done anything yet mostly because of the time I'd have to take off work but I definately see where your coming from, and I'm with EJS I thought they were 4-5k in STL. but I don't know for sure.
Hmm, this is a toughy. If they're going to make you happy, then I say get them, but think long and hard about it. My cousin got breast implants, and she loves them, and she too is kind of a "tomboy" type. I will say this, if you get them, make sure you get a tasteful (and believeable) size. You seriously can't even tell my cousin has implants. They're probably a full C now, but they look really real! Good luck! I'm a D, and I would kill for smaller boobs.
I'm also really small chested. Some days it bothers me, but mostly I'm pretty happy with them. I think you need to think about how you feel about your breasts. Does their size make you unhappy on a regular basis? Or is this fueled by wanting to fill out a wedding dress better? I haven't had any experience (first or second-hand) with augmentations, but it's not something to take lightly!
I was a very small 34A or so before I got my breast augmentation done. Mine was only around $3000 though! I am now a 34D and I LOVE it. I know what you mean about the "tom boy" though, that was me before I got these done. After getting them done I broke up with my ex and got together with what's now my FI, and my whole life pretty much turned around.
Not sure if it's just that, that changed it...but I am definitely more of a girly girl now! It sure did boost up my self esteem though and shirts and bathing suits, ESPECIALLY, fit me so much better!
It's totally up to you girl! Just make sure you think about it :) It's very painful but very much worth it also!!!
I am naturally blessed with 32Ds, so I know I have no room to talk or even act like I understand others' situtations. But I'm all about rocking what you have. I have a super big butt, and it has taken me a long time to understand that it is just the way I am, and I need to accept it and love myself for (and in spite) of it!
Oh and personally, I'd love to be down a few cup sizes. Those cute bras everyone else buys? Try finding them when you are a 32D - Victoria's Secret doesn't even carry that size! :(
eh... i would not do it. Has your FI even felt fake boobs? Every man friend I have who has says don't do it. Plus I would be really worried about the implications for loss of sensitivity and difficulty in catching breast cancer.
But, to each their own :)
I'm not sure who the surgeons were--a friend of mine had considered having hers done and got some prices and we'd talked about it. She had said she could get it for about that price. Meanwhile I think my SIL paid almost 10K for hers.
Columbia is a big city with a big medical school--also a little more rural and they may be a little cheaper. THey're not too far from St. Louis. but i'm with ya--I'm skeptical about trading quality for price. The recession has hit stl, tho, i get plastic surgeon's flyers all the time announcing lower and lower prices for things like lipo and nose jobs all the time. You can bargain with them, and if you pay cash, you can get a discount of at least 10%.
Also stay away from the 'medical spas'. In my experience they grossly overestimate how much something will cost. I had quotes of $6,000 for an estimate and in the end, I got it for about $2500 just by looking around and picking less 'popular' and fancy places.
Also the hairstylist I go to at a salon school just had hers done and was only out and not able to work for a few days. I used this site: http://www.realself.com/find/Missouri/St.-Louis/Breast-implants and found a bunch of PS doctors in StL. Also when I visited Hammer Bodies (a custom gym in StL), the owner told me they recommend plastic surgery sometimes and told me about a woman in her 50's who had a stellar body but needed things tightened and they always recommend that doctor. Not sure who it is. Good luck =]
A few days, WOW! Any idea where she went or anything? and @august I can't shop at VS either because they don't make anything small enough. I have one bra from there and its all black, BOO.
Yes you'll def. be out of work for a few days! I had to sleep sitting UP and had to use my stomache muscles to lift myself up when laying down completely sometimes. I couldn't use my arms at all & for the first day or two I had to have my ex help me use the bathroom! The pain pills help a lot, though.
And one other thing - when & IF you get them, the doctor will tell you to massage them...DO IT, even if it hurts! I was slackin' on mine & when I went for my check-up, the doctor SQUEEZED them and I heard cracking!!! It was probably the worst pain I've ever experienced. So, it may hurt to massage but you def. need to do it! I had my BF at the time help me!
Well, not everyone will be out of work. I had a friend that got them done and she was completely fine afterwords. It all depends on how your body is I guess.
@Lees I thought 6 weeks was typical. I was shocked when EJS said a few days.
When you are considering something like breast augmentation, the benefits need to outweigh the costs. You are aware of the costs: possible side effects from surgery, not having them look totally 'real' (at least at first), having to go in again to have them replaced and of course the monetary cost which is not something to shake a stick at.
As someone who never developed breasts naturally, the benefits absolutely outweighed the costs for me. I mean, I'm not exaggerating when I say I never developed breasts. There wasn't even the slightest curve, no breast tissue that went out further than my skin. I started saving for the surgery at 18 and went under at 20 and it's the best decision I've ever made. I went from being an extremely shy, insecure skinny girl to a beautiful, confident and sexy woman. I know i'm going to have to have them replaced at some point and while I'm not exactly looking forward to it, I've never regretted my decision and I am so happy to have them.
The only advice I would give you is not to go too big. I know you will probably read comments from women who say they wish they went bigger, but remember you can always buy a pushup or padded bra to give you a little omph once in a while. I kind of went as big as I was comfortable going (large C) and I think it's a little too big for me. When I have them changed I will probably go down to a small C or large B.
Good luck with your decision!
Wow 6 weeks! I never heard of anyone taking that long out of work. Mine was painful for about 1 to 1/2 weeks at most probably. After that, I was able to move around and do a lot more.
This has been very informative for me! Thanks ladies and Shannon, sorry to threadjack your topic, =)
@Lees - Cracking?!? GAH!!!
A coworker had her augmentation over a long weekend, and only missed one day from work - so, she had them on a thursday, we were out on friday, and she was back by monday!
No i don't know who had hers done or I'd let you all know! But I know she got 30% off because of some connection (owner of salon is friends or family to the surgeon? Something, so they offer evertyone a discount) and that they are expensive otherwise. i believe she had the injectable kind. when i saw her she was on day 4 or 5 post surgery and was strapped into a really tight sports bra. She said it helped with the pain but she was still uncomfortable working (bending, doing hair, yeah no surprise there!). But she said she was so thrilled with them and so glad she was doing them for herself.
I am a DD and everything that LaylaBelle said about her sister is exactly how I feel on a regular basis. i HATE them and I NEVER feel cute in anything. They are awful!
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