(Closed) Hmm, don’t know what to tell her. . .

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

Well, this is a bit more complicated.  On one hand, yes of course I trust Mr.D to be alone with single women.  On the other, would it bother me if a girl with a known wandering eye was to hang out with him alone? At the very least it would make me uncomfortable.

It might be helpful for your friend to discuss with her husband why this makes her feel uncomfortable, and why L in particular makes her feel uncomfortable.   I probably wouldn’t have taken the route of an authoritarian and said" it’s forbidden and inappropriate" because that probably would make him feel like a child. I know if Mr.D said those words to me I’d be miffed and probably spout off "you don’t trust me!? Who are you, my mother?!".  But thats probably because I get a little too defensive about everything. Seriously though, how would you feel if your fiance said that to you? I’d feel like they didn’t think I was an adult.

If instead they approached it from, "this makes me uncomfortable because…"  I’d be much more willing to listen to their concerns.

 

 

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