(Closed) Hmmm

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
3 posts
Wannabee

Sounds really frustrating. I can definitely understand where you’re coming from. 

I don’t think there’s a good answer to what YOU should do, because he seems like he is the one who needs to put more effort into realizing his obligations to the relationship and what that means to you. He is the one who will have to choose to change on his own.

If you try to force him to change, he will likely resist it. It might cause more tension in your relationship with him and create a parent/child feeling which is undoubtedly destructive. So, I think it’s important for you to realize the potential negative outcoomes that may forever change your relationship before trying to make him change.

do your best to focus on the positives – what made you fall in love with him, what traits about him you love, and how important he is to you. He may need time to change but it sounds like he is going to need to do it on his own. 

Are there some married couples you both could start spending time with instead of single friends? Maybe that would help him shift his mindset.

Post # 4
Hostess
23640 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oops, just noticing that this is a double post! I’m going to close this one, and refer everyone to this link so our OP can get all her advice in the same place:

Advice, please

Thanks!

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