Post # 1
So I am having my wedding on a weeknight around a holiday the Fourth of July. At the moment I have about half of my guest list from out of town, across the country, mostly good friends. I would ideally like a minimum of 100 guests at my wedding and maximum 125. Having 100 guests RSVP yes would be perfect.
Knowing the date of my wedding (around mayor holiday and requirement a flight/hotel expense for some guests)…. How many invites do you think I should mail?
At first, I was following the rule of thumb I’ve heard that 75% of guests will attend, so I had planned to invite about 125 people. But considering it’s around a holiday and long distance from folks, do you think I should invite more people?
And I realize it’s just a matter of predicting how many people would come and that I wont know for sure until I get the RSVPs lol. Thanks for any suggestions.
How many people did you invite and how many attended? 🙂
Post # 3
I heard around a holiday the declines may be a bit higher. My wedding is on Labor Day and we want 150 but are inviting 220-230.
Post # 4
We had a labor day weekend wedding in 2011 and invited about 200, with 155 present on the day of the wedding. Hope that helps!
Post # 5
@julyweddinglovebirds: Why not have an “A” list and a “B” list. Have about 140 on the A list and the 2nd list just keep pulling from when you get more than your needed declines.
Just have the RSVP date a bit earlier so people don’t feel snubbed that they were invited last minute 🙂
Post # 6
I wouldn’t risk having more people than you could accommodate. Send out your invites and have an early RSVP date, so that you can send out B-list invites without it being completely obvious that they are B-list.
Post # 7
There’s this awesome guest excel spread sheet that allows you to input how likely the guest is to come (25 -50-75-100) percent: http://www.theplunge.com/checklists/guest-list-spreadsheet-for-wedding-planning
FH and I found it so useful. We marked those who are just courtesy invites (can’t show, but are close family), versus those that were flip a coin or maybe one partner of a couple would come (50) versus definites like immediate family and wedding party (100). We based our judgments for people based on how close they were, where they lived, and our knowledge of their willingness and ability to travel.
We’re halfway through receiving our RSVPs and so far it’s dead on
We wanted ideally 100 on the nose.
We invited 142 because many were out of town or across country.
RSVP deadline is April 12, we currently have 45 people attending. Many of our local friends (young) haven’t bother to send their card back.
Based on those estimate RSVPs we have left, we’ll wind up 95-110.
Post # 8
@julyweddinglovebirds: keep in mind that even if people decline, you still extended them an invitation, and they can change their mind and come, so if you go a and b list you could still end up with extra people.