Hmmm probably should have asked this before I mailed them

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My parents paid for all of ours but I’m including his parents as well. usually you’d put son if mr&mrs … After his name if they aren’t paying

Post # 5
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We didn’t include my DH’s parents, as they did not contribute financially, and I like the very traditional look of the invitation wording you posted. You definitely don’t have to include them if they didn’t pay–it’s just a gesture some people make.

Post # 6
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i did not put DH’s mother on our invitation.  only my mother was on there as she was the one paying.

Post # 7
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jb20:  You don’t have to include them; you’ve done nothing wrong.

Post # 8
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@jb20:  Ours is worded just like yours is.

His parents have not contributed anything financially so we just went traditional. 

 

Post # 9
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You don’t have to include them.  I included my inlaws to avoid any hurt feelings.

 

Post # 10
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@jb20:  Alot of people do it this way. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 11
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1082 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My parents paid so our invites were worded exactly like yours. Besides DH’s parents are divorced, how do you word that one?!

Post # 12
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@LaPetiote:  Lol, it’s not that hard. Plenty of people have managed to figure it out, considering as probably about half of us have divorced parents.

Post # 13
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ours went this like :

Jenilynevette

and

Jenilynevette’s Fiance

together with their parents

brides parents

and

groom’s parents

invite you to join them

at the ceremony & celebration

of their marriage

 

 

 

Neither set of parents is contributing to the wedding.

Post # 14
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My parents are helping out and his havn’t even mentioned helping out. We are paying for most of it but I worded it like you did and then after his name put Son of Mr & Mrs ___ & ___.

Your wording is fine, you didn’t do anything wrong by not including them.

Post # 15
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1259 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t have to include his, some people do, some don’t. As long as your FI agreed to that wording with you, then deal with any fallout (which hopefully there won’t be!!) as a united front. 🙂 

 

 

Post # 16
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I skipped all parents completely, because WE’RE paying for it.
As of yet, no one is offended.

But ettiquite is that the host is listed on the invites, and if your parents are paying then they’re most likely hosting as well.
I would just shrug if someone mentions something about it. Because like… what are they going to do about it NOW??
Whining will not add an extra line on that invite.
A pen might. But not complaining.

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