(Closed) Hold my toungue until the wedding? (long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Totally understandable that you’re bothered. That would drive me nuts. But, I can imagine she is feeling manic and excited about meeting someone she likes so soon after your dad. 

I guess she might be dealing with her stuff in her own way. If it seems like he’s a good guy, I’d just tell her to enjoy the moment and hopefully she’ll wait for your wedding to pass before seriously considering anything.

I can only imagine how it feels to have a father or a spouse pass away, so I think you guys must both be dealing with lots of emotions… maybe hers aren’t coming across in the best of ways.

 

Post # 4
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I guess what I meant to say was that if it was me, I would casually suggest to her that she bide her time for a while…

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Although I haven’t been in your situation, I know my mom went through some of the same emotions when her father (my grandpa) remarried. She wasn’t planning a wedding herself, so she didn’t have to deal with that side of the drama — and I can’t imagine that at all. Anyway, it wasn’t very long after my grandma’s death, that my grandpa started dating again. Within a couple years (so, yes, a little bit longer), he called my mom to say he was getting remarried. It was very hard for my mom to see my grandpa dating and ultimately marrying, because she really missed her mom. But, it’s been several years now, and I honestly feel that if my grandpa hadn’t found someone that made him happy so quickly, he probably wouldn’t be with us any longer. It’s still hard for my mom, but I think she realizes now how good it has been for her dad. He wasn’t used to being alone, so being alone would have killed him. 

Anyway, I don’t know if this will help at all, but I thought I’d share my limited experience in the hopes that maybe it will help a little. 

I hope that you have a wonderful wedding planning process and that none of your mom’s drama affects your wedding day! 

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