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Holding a shower and/or bachelorette party at my house?

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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    Question:  My BM was talking to me this weekend about a shower and/or bachelorette (may or may not be the same weekend) but she was looking into places to rent.  I know this substantially increases the cost for the hosts and/or the guests of the bachelorette party.

    My FI and I just bought a new 2,000+ sq ft house.  I have a ton of space and its great for entertaining.  Would it be wierd if the shower and/or Bach. Party was held at my house even though my BM's would be hosting it? 

    I talked to my FI and he said he doesn't mind leaving for the weekend so he wouldn't be around.  I figured I could leave for the day so they could set up and do their thing.  I am just not sure if guests would think I was hosting my own shower/party.  Also, I don't want to have to play hostess during the parties.  My BM's know their way around my house pretty well (ie where the trash bags are, etc), so I don't think it would be too bad.

    Thoughts?

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    Nope, most of the Bridal Showers I have been to have been at someone's home. Go for it!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I don't think that's weird at all but probably b/c that's how my shower/bachelorette party went down!

    None of my bridesmaids had a house in StL and only one had a small apartment. I offered up my place (also about the same size) and when they showed up, I left for a few hours. I went to the gym and brought shower stuff and got ready there while they decorated my house and made food and stuff.

    Nobody thoguht I was actually hosting my own paty. It was pretty obvious it was thrown for me, but thrown in my own home. Restaurants were too expensive (most were still in college) and this was jsut the easiest/most afforable option. Later in the day they booted me out (i went shopping with one of the other bridesmaids for an hour) so they could redecorate for the bachelorette party.

    I know it sounds like a hassle but it wasn't. We all got ready/dressed together (just like the good ole days in my sorority!) and it was a blast. Plus when we got home that night there was plenty of munchies =]

     
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    I think that's a great idea! All my girls are in college/young, so one of my BM's mom is throwing the shower (She's my aunt--my BM is my cousin) because her house is huge!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think its a good idea!  A lot of showers are held at houses, it is definitely budget friendly.  And I'm sure your invited guests will know you're not throwing your own party, the hosts will usually be listed on the invitation. 

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    I've been thinking about this, because with an offer accepted on our 2000 sq/ft house, it's def. the best for entertaining out of my friends...

    I say go for it!

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    Holy Cow, KLP, your offer was accepted?  I am off to the Nesting Boards!

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i think that's a great idea, it's always nice to save money! we're always using my mom's house and our friend's mom's house to host showers, even when they aren't the host.

     
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    sapphirebride    December 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    While traditionally you're not supposed to hold it at your house or your mother's house so it doesn't seem like you're throwing your own party, I think it's no big deal these days as long as it's clear that someone else is hosting.

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    Thanks Everyone, it was just something I wasn't sure about.  I really want a way to help my BM's save money anyway I can!

     
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    mrsheart    April 8, 2001   Ilinois

    You know what, traditions are out the window.  I think whoever has the room to host or the finances to pay can do whatever they want!  I think your home is a FANTASTIC idea, the best reason,  if you get tons of big presents, you won't have to have a truck to bring them home!  Also, if you want to have a few girly cocktails, you are home safe and not driving anywhere.  I think that is the best place.

     

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