Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
FI is tall, and has massive feet. And has a full bed. It’s not really long enough for him. And he’s an active sleeper. His long legs and sled feet really pack a lot of power. So every morning, we wake up with the sheets at our ankles, or kicked out from under the mattress, or in some other location that is not on top of us. Instead of a comforter right now, he has a quilt. His aunt’s quilt. Borrowed. Which we can barely wash and carefully when we do. So it feels really unsanitary to me to constantly be losing the sheets in the middle of the night. And once we have a comforter and duvet, washing those is still a pain and I’d rather avoid it until necessary. FI doesn’t see the problem, but this is the same guy who was in college less than 15 months ago and was sure he didn’t need pillowcases. He’s slowly coming to understand my point of view of EWW. And even if it wasn’t gross, it’s a pain to have to totally remake the bed from strep 1 every damn morning.
He’s super frugal, so I can’t spend a lot of money on a solution, but it’s driving me nuts! I need to be able to keep the sheets in place at night. Someday, we’ll buy a king bed, but that’s not in the cards right now.
Do you bees have any solutions?
Post # 2
We are both active sleepers and we don’t sleep with a top sheet, just blankets. We wash the blankets when we wash the fitted sheet and pillowcase. We’ve been sleeping like that for 6 years with no problems.
Post # 3
AllyCRN: If you use a duvet with a cover, it doesn’t need to be tucked in, and you take the cover off and wash it just like you wash sheets.
You could also get extra long sheets or sew extra fabric on the bottom . This allows you to leave a pleat in the sheet when you make the bed so he has the extra inches for his feet without the sheet being pulled tight.
Post # 4
AllyCRN: I have a deep matress and a featherbed plus a matress pad (it’s like sleeping on a cloud with all that) So I buy big sheets. When I make the bed I fold the top foot of topsheet over the duvet cover and then when we get in I leave it like that. The extra foot of topsheet over it holds it in place most of the time.
Post # 5
My solution would be to just buy a cheap duvet cover (from Ikea or something) and put it over the quilt and wash the duvet cover whenever you wash your your pillow cases & fitted sheet.
Post # 6
I think OldMrsMcDonald: has the right idea, in that you need to get blankets that can easily be machine-washed every time you wash the rest of the bedsheets. I think a duvet with cover may not be the best choice, since taking the cover on and off is a pain in the ass so you may not want to wash it as often as you’d like! I used to have a thin down-filled blanket that was machine-washable, so there are definitely some good options out there.
Post # 7
AllyCRN: I have NEVER been able to understand how people keep sheets in place. I avoid this all together by using a duvet + duvet cover. I actually grew up with my bed this way, so it totally boggles my mind that people do it any other way!
You could just buy a duvet cover to enclose the quilt he’s currently using and buy a duvet (or register for one) when you’ve got the money.
ETA: You are talking about the sheet between yourself and the quilt, not hte one between yourself and the mattress right? If the issue is the sheet on bottom, just make sure you have a fitted sheet that’s the right size for your bed and it shouldn’t come off in the night. If it does it’s probably too small.
Post # 8
You could try putting two sets of top sheets on, one on his side, one on your side. He would still kick his off, but at least you would get to have a sheet for yourself.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
We usually end up where DH has the sheet and I have the blanket, with both still tucked in at the bottom of the bed. Still trying to figure out how that happens…
Post # 10
I’m glad you all understand because I don’t get the problem! What is it? Sheets all wrapped around in the a.m.??
Post # 11
We do the same as OldMrsMcDonald. No top sheet, just a blanket that we wash with the fitted sheet. Works great!
Post # 12
AllyCRN: DH is horrible at pulling the sheets up and off the bed magically while we sleep. I haven’t found any solutions for the flat sheet, but we got these things that look like sheet suspenders/garters at Bed Bath & Beyond that go on each corner. They work awesome and we havne’t had a fitted sheet come off the bed since we’ve had them!
If your talking about the other sheets, i’d just skip the flat sheet and get a duvet cover or two for the quilt so you can easily wash it weekly without having to worry…
Post # 13
iarebridezilla: Putting on a duvet cover couldn’t be easier. You just turn it inside out, grasp rwo corners of the duvet through the duvet cover, shake it 2 or 3 times so the duvet cover falls over the duvet- DONE!
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Thanks for all the good ideas, Bees! I’ll see what we can do.