Post # 1
whats your take on this? does it make sense if yes or no why? I am considering doing it. My reason is that I want to see if during this time we can connect on a more tantric level and sice we have been having sex all these years I want him to crave me the wedding night kinda like teasing a dog with a bone. I want to hold out for 6 months.
Post # 3
I personally will not…we’re already doing it, so why bother to stop? 😉
Post # 4
I hate being on the fence about this!!!! I get what you are saying, but Statutory Grape has a really good point, too! >.<
Post # 5
At most, I’ll hold out for two weeks, but not without discussing it with Mr. Grape first, haha.
Post # 6
yea I wanted to discuss it with him but I can just picture the look on his face…I honestly think it would be good for us as we could focus on other aspects of our relationship.
Post # 7
@pat291: Ha, I know that face well! But if you’re planning on something as lengthy as six months, you might want to discuss it with him so you’re both on the same page.
Post # 8
I like sex waaaay too much to abide by a ban – even two weeks is too long. So I guess I won’t be doing it! (Or, more accurately, I will be doing IT. ;))
Post # 9
We waited about 4 months, and I think it made a difference. The fact that it was the first time without a condom, though–that was what made it amazing.
Post # 10
we did a hiatus – with one slip up but since then its been about 2 months (it was supposed to be 6 but yeah… lol)
letcha know after the honeymoon in 2 weeks if it worked like i think it will…
Post # 11
We didn’t stop, and I’m glad we didn’t. I think it’s different anyway when you’re husband and wife, and it didn’t make our wedding night any less awesome and exciting.
Post # 12
I think it would be worth it.
I am waiting completely til we are married.
But if it’s something you want to do, it is aways harder to go backwards intimacy wise, it would be very challenging.
Post # 13
one of my BM’s is living with Fiance and I for the next few months and she is also engaged, due to marry next july.
so there is her and fiance, who have already had sex throughout their three year relationship and there is my fiance and me, who have also been having sex throughout our three year relationship.
Bridesmaid or Best Man and her Fiance have decided to stop having sex before the wedding. it has been two months since they have had sex and they have another 10 months to go.
Fiance and I have never stopped!
guess which couple is constantly on edge and fights nonstop?
Post # 14
I want to stop for a month or so before the wedding, but have to discuss it with Fiance. He’s very respectful of my thoughts on this subject, it’s usually me who slips up. 🙂 Originally, I planned to wait until marriage… but that didn’t happen. So I think this way I kinda get the best of both worlds… we already have a pretty good idea of what the other likes and are comfortable with each other, but there will still be that anticipation of the wedding night. 😉
Post # 15
I casually brought this subject up the other day just to see what my guy’s reaction would be. I love a lot of the traditions associated with getting married and thought this would be fun, maybe just for 1 month or so. You should’ve seen his expression, lol, so I guess my answer is a big “No.” Even when I said just for one week….nope. Oh well!
Post # 16
I get why some people do this (although I think 6+ months is a little excessive, I mean, what did your guy ever do to you? 😉 ) but it’s personally not for me. I enjoy sex way too much. By the time we get married, we would have been living together and having sex for 15 months, there’s no sense in trying to be chaste now. I also think that if you’re going to do this, it should be something both partners want to do, not something you’re imposing on your Fiance.
I just brought this up with my Fiance as I was reading this thread and he stared at me with a “please don’t tell me you actually want to do this” look on his face. I assured him he has nothing to worry about. 🙂