Holding Out Until the Big Day

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Are you practicing abstinence until your wedding night?
    yes : (18 votes)
    19 %
    no : (42 votes)
    44 %
    maybe : (10 votes)
    10 %
    WTF?!?!?! : (26 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee

    I could never. Partially because my wedding is a year and 9 months away right now and I’d go nuts. But I think the wedding night is going to be special, whether we had sex the night before or not for a whole year before.

    And, to be honest, I’d be worried about how long he was going to last if we waited. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We thought about it. But decided it would be too hard for us lol. Good for you holding out though! Does this include oral too?

    Post # 6
    Member
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I just don’t understand the thinking behind this. I think it will be special after the wedding because it will officially be the first time as husband and wife – regardless of if we’re faux abstinent before. (I say faux abstinent because obviously you have had sex with each other before). Plus I wouldn’t want it to be painful on our wedding night.

    This seems like a really great way to encourage him to be extra frisky with those strippers at his bachelor party!

    But if you two have decided that this the way you want to go – more power to you.

    Post # 10
    Member
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We were thinking of maybe taking a few weeks off to build up the anticipation, but 8 months… That is a long time!

    Post # 11
    Member
    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Um, no. Seems pointless to be honest. We live together and I think we would have gone mad.

    Post # 12
    Member
    650 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope thats definitely not for me. AT the moment we are long distance until I can move there after the wedding and when I see him in a few weeks its on. I dont think I can be around him and wait and he wouldnt want to either, but more power to you girl

    Post # 13
    Member
    3454 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, we did not do this.  I don’t believe waiting makes it any more special if you were doing it all along.

    Post # 14
    Member
    6895 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    No, and I’ve never understood it, to be completely honest. To each his/her own.

    Married sex is different because it’s your first time having married sex, not because you haven’t practiced in a while.

    Post # 15
    Member
    41 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    One of my friends did this for several months before her wedding and it actually created a ton of sexual tension (in a bad way) between them. She would want to snuggle up next to him on the couch and he would tell her he just couldn’t handle it because it was painful for him that they weren’t doing it. My husband sums it up this way: ‘Sex is like shaving. Once you start doing it, you just can’t stop. And if you do stop, it only gets worse and worse…’ 🙂

    Post # 16
    Member
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We are only waiting one month before.

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