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I'll fully admit that I'm probably being a little bit grumpy today. My birthday falls between Christmas and New Years and it always just seems to be smooshed between all of the holidays and gatherings. As a kid it wasn't that fun because relatives tended to give one gift and call it a "christmas-birthday" gift. To make matters worse, my brother was born in November and my sister in December. So between all of the major holidays and my siblings birthdays, everyone just wants to be done by the time my birthday comes around. I only had a birthday party a few times as a kid, and even then most of my friends were busy and it was combined with my brother and sister's birthday.
I know I shouldn't care anymore... I'm a grown, married, educated woman. But it sucks that everyone is too busy to even go out to dinner. DH mentioned the two of us going out to a nice dinner, but we do that pretty regularly though.
My husband said he didn't know what to get me because he used up all of his ideas for Christmas. And being me, I of course just said, "oh, don't worry about it - I don't need or want anything." Now I really don't think he's going to bother getting me anything... even a card would be nice though.
Does anyone else have a birthday close to a major holiday? Any fun stories to tell?
Edit: As the poll is just meant for fun, "major holidays" can be whatever you celebrate with your family/ friends.
Mr. Library's birthday is the day after Christmas and my mom's is the week of Thanksgiving (and typically falls on Thanksgiving!). Mr. Library doesn't really mind it because he hasn't really lived with a huge "It's your birthday!" type of family (until he married me!), and my mom loves it because our family members are all together to celebrate with her.
I can definitely see how having a holiday birthday could suck. I love making my birthday into its own special event, like another holiday all to itself, so I wouldn't like having it rolled up into a big holiday like Christmas. I was born on Mother's Day, though - of course my mom said I was the best Mother's Day gift she ever received. :) (Hm, though I suppose once we have kids, I'll probably end up with my birthday and my Mother's Day celebration all rolled into one - I'd never even thought about that before!)
Memorial Day here! Which rocks because we get more time off. Probably one of the funnest holiday seasons to be born in. Sorry all you Valentines and Christmas babies.
My birthday is in the same month as a holiday, but its not too close so i cant complain. But i have friends who are born on the same day as major holidays n they hate it. It suprises me that some couples deliberately schedule their child's birth on a holiday.
mine is sometimes on easter, which isn't a huge deal. i feel bad for all of you christmas babies!
Christmas baby here!!
Actually, I've always loved having a Christmas birthday, especially as a kid. All your family is around for both events. Plus, it helped that we always have my "birthday" Christmas evening after all the hoopla from the rest of the day dies down. I've always received two sets of presents too....and to those that try and combine them, well, how would you like it if your Christmas present also was your June birthday present...that usually seems to drive the point home.
Now that I'm married, it definately makes things a little more complicated because if we spend the holiday with his side, it's also my birthday...just takes a little more negotiating and planning.
My birthday is ON New Year's Eve! I generally don't really like it...I never had a birthday party at school because we were always on vacation and now that I'm older, there's even more pressure to have a rockin' New Year's Eve because it's also my birthday. It usually ends up being a ton of hype and not very much fun. Hopefully this year will be better :) It's just funny that if I'd been born a few hours later, I would never have met DH or any of my other friends because i would have been in a different grade at school.
my bday's in early January, so it's always close to the holidays. it's far enough away that things aren't always lumped and I had parties when I was a kid, but I always wish it was spaced out more! my hubby used to make a big deal out of valentine's day too, so it was just a lot financially to have some kind of celebration once a month for 3 months. I'm excited now that our anniversary is in august so we have a celebration then too :)
My birthday usually falls near Easter, but not always (Easter follows the Jewish calendar, which is based on lunar patterns, IIRC).
It often corresponded with spring break as a kid though, which I didn't like because it meant I couldn't bring cupcakes to school!
My birthday is in July so as a kid the only thing I did not like was my friends would be on family vacations and not be at my party and I could never bring in treats to class like the other kids. My brothers have the same birthday (two years apart) which sucks right now for them because my parents can not really afford to throw to seperate parties at the same time and at the age they are now, 10 and 12, they do not really want to share. Or my one brother will want to go fishing and the other wants to go bowling so my parents end up not being at one of their parties. Also as their sister I have to be really careful to get them equally priced items since they open them at the same time and always end up comparing.
I was born on Easter and have never had an issue with it. I've also known people born on Halloween, Christmas, etc and they didn't have a problem with it either.
Mine is also between Christmas and New Years! UGH. As a kid, it was kind of a mixed bag...the good thing was that it always fell over vacation, so I never had to go to school and luckily, most of my friends stayed in town for the holidays so I could have birthday parties! But I do remember one teacher refusing to let me bring in cupcakes before or after vacation because it wasn't my "real" birthday. All the other kids got to bring in cupcakes on their birthdays :( And I definitely got a lot of holiday/birthday combo gifts :(
As an adult, it sometimes has sucked. One year, ALL of my friends were out of town the week between Christmas and New Years and no one was working at my office, so I thought I would spend the ENTIRE day of my birthday alone! Luckily, one friend came home early, so I "made" him go to dinner with me! :-)
Oh, and here's a real gem...the first year FI and I were dating, he told me he was going home from before Christmas through New Years. I didn't want to tell him to change plans, but was sad he wouldn't be around for my birthday. But I bit my tongue and hid my disappointment. But then, his own mother scolded him for leaving me alone on my birthday, so he came back early to be with me! (And now we spend Christmas (and sometimes my birthday) together with his family)
Hang in there! I sympathize for sure!!
I'm born in April so I guess I'm kind of close to Easter but I don't really consider Easter to be a "major holiday". I do feel bad for people born near Thanksgiving / X-mas / New Years though - I would hate that!
@hilsy85: Really? The cutoff for my school was always June 30th so you'd have to have been born 6 months later to be in a different grade. Guess it varies state by state?
my sister was born Dec 22, right before christmas! she HAAAATTTES it!! when we were kids, my mom threw her "half birthdays" and we would do the party in June. my mom went all out - cut the invites into two pices and sent them a week appart, did the cake half chocolte half some other flavor, guests came "hlaf dressed" (one year, my mom made me an outfit where she cut a tank top and a long sleved shirt in half and sewed them together down the middle, so i was half winter half summer!)
these days, we celebrate in december, but if you even dare giving her a gift thats "also partly your christmas gift" she throws a fit. or if you wrap her gift in holiday paper. its hilarious!
@Mrs.KMM: Yup for NYC public schools the cut off is Dec. 31st. So I just squeaked by--I was born at 11:14pm! 
Oh yeah. I'm December 22. My parents were always careful to separate my b-day from xmas or Hannukah celebrations (mom's Jewish, dad's Catholic) but it definitely sucked that I could never have a birthday party on my actual birthday, or have any kind of in-school celebration.
One year when I was about 9, I got a present from my dad's cousin (my "aunt"). It consisted of a pair of socks with a heart on them and some hershey's kisses, with a card reading, "happy birthday and merry christmas!" Being the ungrateful little monster that I was, I thought this was about the greatest injustice perpetrated since Christ was crucified.
@hilsy85: I always think about that too! Our cut off was Dec 31...I just made it into my grade! If I had not been born two weeks early, my whole life would be so very different! Even today, my closest friends are still mostly grade school friends--and I would've hardly known them if I had been born on schedule. And I probably wouldn't have met my FI either!!!!
@hilsy85: Man - maybe I should have lived in NY. With a late April birthday, I was always one of the youngest in my class. It would have been nice sometimes to be one of the older kids! (Although I'm sure you were ALWAYS the youngest in your classes!)
My birthday is just a few days before halloween and I loved it growing up! My bff when I was a kid had her birthday ON halloween so we'd usually alternate years having birthday parties and they'd always be halloween/birthday parties where everyone dressed up (and when we were older went to haunted houses). Now that I'm an adult it just doesn't really matter much because Halloween isn't a huge deal anymore.
My FI's birthday is less than a week after Valentines day and I will admit its slightly stressful to think of 2 gifts in one week, but I never combine. What we've done a lot is just say no gifts for valentines day (or a $50 limit or something) so that it takes the pressure off of me to come up with two great things in one week.
My brother's birthday is ON valentines day. Not sure how he feels about it? He never complained.
My FI's mom and sister both have birthdays the week of christmas and hate it! They both complain of people doing the joint gift thing. We make sure to get them two totally separate gifts and we wrap the birthday gift in non-holiday paper. :)
My birthday is always a couple of days after Thanksgiving. I LOVE it because I always get to see my family, and we traditionally have birthday cake after turkey every year and sing for me :) I wouldn't change it!
@Julialimei: Yeah it's a weird thing to think "What if?" But I'm happy it worked out the way it did :)
@Mrs.KMM: Yup, always THE youngest. It's really only sucked in college, when I had to wait until the 2nd half of senior year to be able to legally drink/go to bars! It was SO annoying that I was the last one to turn 21.
@ClairDarling: That sounds like sucha cute way to handle it. I love the idea of "half birthday parties" and everyone coming half dressed!
I'm January 3rd so my birthday definitely gets caught up in the holidays to some extent...since it's right after all the hoopla ends, people often seem too exhausted from all the festivities to celebrate yet another event.
Growing up, I was always jealous of my siblings as they are July and August babies. I would get the "combination presents" while they always ended up with great birthday presents since it was so far from Christmas. Now, my fiance is 12 days before Christmas and I'm 9 days after. Makes for a busy few weeks!!!
@hilsy85: Oh I totally feel you on the turning 21 - my best friends in college (DH included) were all a year ahead of me so combine that with me already being young for my year and I felt like I turned 21 soooo long after they all did. Such is life I guess!
Awww, I totally feel your pain... from a mother's prospective :). My wee man was born on New Years' Eve, so planning a party for him ain't easy! I am trying really hard not to skimp out on presents (my family insists that I should do the Christmas-birthday dealy). He is totally loving it atm though. He has been counting down the sleeps, and is so excited to be at 1! :D I do think that as you get older it should get better...
my birthday is Dec 21. and BOTH of my parents are on Dec 19. I don't even rememvber the last time I didn't have a cake that said. " Happy Birthday mom, dad, and artwyopie!"
I also have a nephew that is born dec 9. FI is Jan 16 and another nephew jan 30.
winter gets a little crazy with all the birthdays
My birthday is in the first few days of September, so not really near a major holiday (Labour Day is the first Monday of Sept here). It sucked growing up, because it was still usually during summer time so I didn't get to celebrate at school, and my parents would always take me and my sister back to school shopping and mine would get wrapped up as presents.
It's good as an adult though, because my birthday has become kind of the "goodbye to summer" bash.
I feel you, girl! My birthday is the week before Christmas. Every year, I'd get the dreaded "birthday/christmas" present. Bonus points if it's wrapped in Christmas paper. No one would call or anything on my bday, then someone would usually bust out a bday cake on Christmas as an afterthought, expecting that to any and all birthday festivities. Office Christmas parties have a way of always being held on my birthday (I'm not a fan of forced socialization anyway, so I'm loathe to spend my bday stuck in an office party) and everyone is always too busy with Christmas festivities to do anything to celebrate if it's not.
Yeah, holiday birthdays totally suck. Wish my parents would've been a little more considerate when conceiving me. :D
My bday is in July but in the middle so not too close to the 4th or any other holiday. The real issue is that it's two days after my brother's birthday. I always kind of felt like I got the short end of the stick. In our family there is always a lot of lead up to the "next" birthday so I only got one day of pre birthday excitement. His party was always first, his presents came first, etc, etc. Which makes sense since his bday IS first, but sometimes my birthday felt like an after thought.
I love my birthday being around Christmas.
@xmasbby78: and @lezlers: i'm a week before Christmas too and when I was younger I always got a few joint presents. I like xmasbby78's point about birthday in June and receiving one present.
@artwyopie: I too am on 19 Dec ;)
@hilsy85: Happy Birthday for tomorrow ;)
I feel you! Mine is January 2nd, and everyone is alway hung over and returns to work on my Birthday!
My birthday isn't near a holiday but giiirrrrlll I don't think that just because you're an "adult" you should get over how it sucks! :) I think it sucks to have a birthday so close to a holiday (let alone two holidays)!!!
I know this may seem silly but would you consider celebrating your birthday after the holidays (like way after...end of January) with your SO and friends? I think that's what I would do if I felt blue about the real date. I'm not big on "REAL DATES" (we hardly celebrate our anniversaries/holidays/birthdays in our household on the "correct" dates because a lot of them are inconvenient)...I'd make up my fake birthday at the end of January every year if I had a Christmas/New Year's birthday and plan something fun every 3rd Saturday in January :)
My birthday is the same week as Canadian Thanksgiving. It's totally fine with me because then I get turkey AND chocolate cake on my birthday which are my two favourite foods, so it doesn't get any better than that ;) But also, it's not a gift giving holiday, so I don't get the two-for-one deal like poor Christmas babies! That sucks! I also figured out that having your birthday on a holiday means you can milk at least one more dinner out of it by saying "But we didn't get to go out for my birthday dinner, we had a family dinner at home!", LOL! ;)
My birthday is two days after Valentine's Day and often falls over President's Day weekend. I love it! It's always a great excuse to do something extra special for Valentine's Day (my fiance ALWAYS takes me somewhere for the weekend) and plus, there's usually a 3 day weekend. I'm lucky in that my family always makes a point of keeping my birthday separate from Valentine's Day though. We're getting married on New Year's Eve and I think it'll always be a fun time to celebrate our anniversary.
My birthday is the day after Independence Day (U.S.) so I just tell myself that all the festivities (and by festivities I mean fireworks) are really for me and not the freedom of America.
MIL was born the day after Christmas, DH was born 2 days after Christmas, and I was born 4 days after Christmas. When both he and I were growing up our parents made a huge deal about seperating the birthdays and holiday, so we still do that to this day. We make a big deal about celebrating all the birthdays. It can be a pain (especially the year we ended up with 3 dairy queen ice cream cakes three days in a row...yuck!) but everyone is happy in the end so it works. We don't do combined gifts, though this year I got upgraded diamond earrings from DH but I still got a few smaller gifts on both Christmas and my birthday.
I'm not alone! Happy Birthday (or near birthday) to all the bees with birthdays around Christmas/ New Years!
So my birthday is today. And my husband didn't even get me a card. It's our first year married... he's always gotten me birthday gifts, so I don't know what's up. But everyone's stories cheered me up a bit, so thank
@In the media: I like that approach :)
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