Post # 1
First off, I want to say that I am agnostic, and I would rather not start a religious debate with anyone. I just have a holiday question that I am a bit confused about…
I was raised Christian, as was Fiance, but at this point in our lives, we are somewhat unsure what we believe and feel it is hypocritical to say we are Christians just because our parents are. We still celebrate Christmas with our families, however, basically to keep the peace and respect their beliefs. Most of our families are Christian. We have many Jewish friends and friends who celebrate other “winter” holidays.
When we are with family, we typically say “Merry Christmas” because we know they are Christian.
However, what I am wondering is, is it disrespectful to say “Happy Hanukkah” to someone that we are sure celebrates it, if we are not a part of that religion? Is it disrespectful to our families to wish them “Merry Christmas” if we don’t believe in the holiday? Should I just tell everyone “Happy Holidays?”
I don’t wish to disrespect anyone or undermine their beliefs – I just never know what to say this time of year! I feel like no matter what we do, we will end up getting someone in a tissy…
Post # 3
You can definitely say, “Happy Hanukkah” to anyone you know for sure celebrates it. Believe me, with so many people assuming that everyone celebrates Christmas, it will be a refreshing change for them. And you can say, “Merry Christmas” to Christians. There is no harm in wishing someone a good whatever-holiday-they-are-celebrating, even if it is not a holiday you celebrate.
Post # 4
Hmmm. I think it is OK and even kind to wish someone a Merry Christmas or Happy Hannukah if you know they celebrate it, Isn’t it kind of akin to Have a good day?
Post # 5
I think that is perfectly fine.
Post # 6
Hanukkah ended a few weeks back, so you do not have to say it again until next December.
I am Jewish and secular with a slight spiritual streak. One of my closest friends, who is Christian, always sends me a Hanukkah card, which I think is very classy. Her thoughtfulness is one of the many reasons why I love her.
My point is, depending on the religion, give a Merry Christmas or a Happy Hanukkah. If you are unsure of a person’s religion, go for Happy Holidays. On the other hand, I am never offended when somebody tells me Merry Christmas but I sure to like when people think about it, as you do.
I don’t believe in any of these holidays, but out of respect to varying believes and sensitivities, I aim for the holiday. It’s just a nice thing to do.
Hope that makes sense.
Post # 7
I say Happy Hanukkah to people I know celebrate it. I tend to switch between Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays beyond that. I use them fairly interchangably.
If someone is offended by the offering of well-wishes, they are overly sensitive!