- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
bees – need some reassuring please. experiencing a lot of tension during the holidays and not sure what to do. when we were dating, similar issues arose (Fiance comes from a divorced family and there is often a lot of push/pull/struggle) however, it just seemed regular dysfunction. this year engaged, there was a lot of struggle between the time we spent with his dad’s family and mom’s family. it seemed we couldn’t seem to do anything right and often got quite a few passive aggressive calls/texts/etc laying on guilt trips of us being at the other family’s home. Crazy to me as we spent ALL the time with his family- mine is long-distance so my parents and i find other ways to “celebrate” holidays. I’ve tried to resolve by trying out traditions of our own the last few days, but today despite me trying to “fix” it still erupted in a bickering match between us. It seems he is avoiding the whole family mess and frankly, i’m concerned for the future how to resolve. HELP.