Post # 1
Me and my fiance are having our wedding on May 25, 2013 which is memorial day weekend. I am reading on other blogs that it is a selfish thing to do. We are having our wedding out of state because we had more family closer to where we are having it. My fiance is in the military and we decided that a four day weekend would be the best time to have it, and turns out that would mean it has to be a holiday weekend. He will be in school at the time so he can’t just take off other days…I am worried that people may not want to come now..any one in a similar situation or have an opinions or adivce??
Post # 3
That weekend is what works best for you, and it seems you two have really limited options. So have your wedding that weekend! Let your guests know as soon as possible so they don’t make other plans, and don’t get offended if some people are already committed to family reunions or turn down the invite because they want that weekend for their own vacation. You might want to consider a Sunday afternoon or evening wedding then, so that people get a nice break of their own to do a night or two away and can then use the Monday off to recover. Plus it’ll be a lot cheaper for you lol.
Post # 4
We are getting married this Memorial Day and have had 75% of our guests RSVP yes, so I don’t think it has discouraged too many people from attending. In fact I think if anything it has made it easier for some of them to travel.
ETA – also I don’t see how scheduling a wedding on a certain date can be considered “selfish.” If people can’t or don’t want to come, they don’t come.
Post # 5
That’s my wedding date too! Personally, the fact that it’s a 3 day weekend means MORE people will be able to come to mine! A lot of my friends are in graduate school around the country so having a longer weekend will make it so they will be more able to come. Also, my Fiance and I will be just finishing up our graduate degrees (him- MD, me- M.Ed.).
However, I’ve read the same thing, that it’s selfish. Whatever. If someone doesn’t want to use their 3 day weekend to come to my wedding, that’s actually fine with me (maybe it’ll keep costs down?) Haha… Anyway, it seems like we’re in similar situations–busy lives so the 3 day weekend works!
Post # 6
We are going to a wedding on May 27 (which is a Sunday). We likely would have had issues any other Sunday (mainly because we have to work Mondays) or would have not had as good of a time. This works out well for us as guests, but we don’t have any regular plans for that holiday.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone, you made me feel better about choosing that date. You’re right, if people want to come, they will find a way to. I should stop worrying about it and continue planning!
Post # 8
My only suggestion would be to let people know far in advance as you can. Many people make plans for holiday weekends really far in advance so you will get the most attendance if you tell them now.
I don’t think its rude, if it fits you and Fh best, go for it!
Post # 9
We are having our wedding this memorial day weekend in Jamaica and we did it purposely so people would have any extra day off for the trip/ their vacation. If that weekend works best for you, then go for it!! Give people plenty of notice and make sure the important people know ahead of time so that they will be there!!!
Post # 10
don’t worry about it! I’ve been to plenty of weddings on holiday weekends. If they really love you and are excited about your marriage they will see it as a great way to celebrate the holiday weekend. If they see it as selfish or annoying then they likely aren’t that close to you and have every right to RSVP no and go about their business:)
Post # 11
We are having our wedding on memorial day weekend (Sunday) and nobody had a problem with it. We are doing a Destination Wedding and most people have off that Monday and won’t have to use a vacation day.
I don’t think it’s selfish at all. It’s not like its Christmas morning.
Post # 12
I love weddings on holiday weekends! We can attend without having to take time off work.
Post # 13
Im having my wedding on a holiday weekend because my family will already be down for the holidays so that was the only date that would work for us this year. Do whats best for you and your situation. Dont worry about what others think. The people that really cares about you will attend. A wedding only happens once. By The Way, a friend of mine (also my BM) had her wedding 2 yrs ago on this date. Her husband works in the oil field so this was the only/best time they could do it.
Post # 14
We had ours over Labor Day weekend. A few people were unable to come because it was there only opportunity to do ______ (such as visit out of state family). However, others were able to come because it was a holiday weekend.
Dont change your date because of what people are saying! Some will love you for it and some won’t 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
There will always be people who find something about wedding plans to get upset about. You picked the date that worked best for you two- give people enough notice and they’ll do their best to be there. I don’t see anything selfish in having it over a holiday weekend- if every holiday weekend this year was filled with weddings, I would be happy so many of my friends were getting married. 🙂
Post # 16
My wedding was the day before Easter and we had a great turnout! The people who want to come will make an effort to be there, regardless of if it was a holiday weekend or not.