Post # 1
First off Congratulations to anyone who may have gotten engaged over the Holiday Season, and this is in not way meant to be a smack or a hit at anyone who may have gotten engaged over the holiday season.
I have been noticing on my facebook now that I am getting older, and the general populous of my friends are reaching 23~25 years of age that EVERYONE is getting engaged! Which by the way is great! I believe in the institution of marriage and everything it stands for , I myself am planning my July 2016 wedding. Although something has stood out to me as maybe a little off, every holiday season; Christmas, New Years or Easter, and birthdays people get engaged. I got engaged on December 15 2010, 6 months after officially dating FI so therefore to me we took a day which really meant nothing, and made it a special day to us. I mean I dont celebrate 6 month anniversaries, I think thats slightly foolish.
To me, The Holidays and Birthdays are already special, and to have a holiday or birthday engagement is a little cliché, I wouldn’t want to have an engagement played down by a holiday as I think it’s a huge step in your life and why not make an ordinary day special because of it??
Post # 3
Personally, I wouldn’t mind it. An engagement is special, no matter when it takes place.
Post # 4
OK I’m going to say this…I am still waiting for a proposal and I know the ring is in the house somewhere. You can bet I would’ve still taken a holiday proposal over still waiting – cliche or not! 🙂 Last night we were even watching When Harry Met Sally! Torture!
Post # 5
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My husband always said he’d never propose on a special occasion because a proposal should be its own special thing. BUT he proposed on my 26th birthday and because for years he had said he never would, I was actually surprised! Birthdays are all your own, but Christmas, New years’, valentine’s day don’t seem as special. There were so many facebook engagement posts on Christmas that they all looked the same after awhile.
Post # 7
I voted I would want a Holiday/birthday engagement, but what I really mean to say is no, I don’t think it’s cliche. I got engaged on a random day with no meaning and I wouldn’t care if I got engaged on that day or any other day, including holidays. Today is my birthday and a holiday. I don’t think getting engaged today would downplay anything, I think it would only amplify my happiness and excitement.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s cliche at all. I guess I don’t see the engagement day as being *that* special after marriage anyways. DH and I don’t remember exactly which day he even proposed.
I honestly would have preferred an engagement right before Thanksgiving or Christmas because it would have been the perfect time to show off my ring to my friends and family!
Post # 9
I look on facebook now and I expect to see between 3 and 5 engagements just christmas eve and day, and I did!
Post # 10
@boogiewoogies: well said! I think it would have only amplified my happiness if I were proposed to on a holiday/my birthday! Happy Birthday 🙂
Post # 11
@ChantelleC90: Technically I got engaged on a holiday, but it was the 4th of July, so I’m not sure it counts! It also happened to be the day after FI’s birthday, but we didn’t get engaged that day because it was a holiday. It just happened to be a nice day off that we had after he got the ring.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a holiday or birthday engagement. Yes you could make a regular day special, but you could also make a holiday even more special. Maybe the couple really loves the holiday or it’s a time when they can easily celebrate with family.
You did get engaged in mid-December though, so some people would consider that part of the holiday season.
And really, there are holidays throughout the year, so it’s not uncommon to get engaged around some sort of holiday.
Post # 12
I think that if your SO is a man, they tend to do so on holidays because it’s almost more convienient. My friend got engaged on a holiday and because of this was not even a little suspcious that he was skulking around and being secretive. She assumed it was her gift, not an engagement ring. Also, her entire family was there, etc.
I suspect I’m getting proposed to on Valentine’s Day. It’s really whatever to me. I’ll be less suspicious of any plans because there will be that voice saying, “Well, it’s still Valentine’s Day so maybe it’s just candy or a book, etc.” I’d love it 🙂 I’d also love some random Thursday in March. I have no random date demands, but can definitely see where ladies would protest, as they are a touch cliche. Everyone kind of expects a Christmas proposal–I know family members were eyeing my ring finger during Christmas dinner and already my grandmother eyed my finger this morning!
Post # 14
I told my FI that I didn’t want a Valentine’s Day proposal, but I’m not against holiday/special occasion proposals (or even V-Day proposals in general, I just didn’t want one). My FI proposed on the day I graduated from grad school, but that wasn’t why. He wanted to propose at a local holiday light show, and the day I graduated was when I wanted to go. Either way, it definitely made the day super awesome for me!
Post # 15
FI proposed on Christmas Eve and I really like the date he chose! Our families don’t do a lot on Christmas Eve – other than open up pajamas right before we go to bed and watch the claymation cartoons on TV. It’s nice to have this day be extra special and celebrate it with him! We have our own traditions now for Christmas Eve – a nice dinner, a mug of cocoa with marshmallows and having some “us” time amongst the chaos of families and the holidays.
However, when we got engaged, we couldn’t tell some of our nearest and dearest until like January 20th due to extenuating circumstances, so we weren’t facebook official until then and we kind of avoided the “holiday proposal” window on facebook, which I admit was nice.
ETA: I’m another bee who requested no Valentine’s Day proposal only because I thought it would be too predictable for us. Turns out I predicted the Christmas Eve proposal too, so whatever!
Post # 16
I’m pretty sure it’s strategic. Easy to remember when you proposed when it coincides with another major, important date!