(Closed) Holidays – The Inevitable Topic of the GUESTLIST!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that people are inviting themselves!  I think that they will get it once you send out the invites and if people really bother you about it, just explain that since you are paying yourselves for the wedding and you can’t afford to invite everyone.

Post # 4
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

that’s when we always jump in with, “well we’re having a VERY small wedding.” and explain that it’s only 30 people. we have the luxery of being able to kind of lie. we’re only having 30 people at the ceremony, and more people for the reception. they don’t need to know that.

Post # 5
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh.  I hated this discussion…Thank goodness it’s over!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

When will be people get it???!!!??? It’s rude and passive-aggressive to makes comments like that! Sometimes I wonder if it’s really about the person really, really wanting to attend the wedding or is it just that they want an invitation so they can feel “special” regardless if they have knows you two hours or if you haven’t talked to them in seven years? I have NEVER said that to any bride or groom-to-be. I am anticipating there are going to be a few people who are going to do that to us. Sorry, FH and I are paying for everything on our own and there isn’t a whole lot of money to use either!

Post # 7
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That’s tough. I do think to some degree it’s a generational thing. In some cases, in our parent’s generations it was standard that weddings were much less formal (i.e., cake and punch in the church basement,) with every extended relative and neighbor in the world invited.

If you think it will be a big problem, maybe you could have a family get-together, just something at your parent’s house, for extended family who wants to celebrate with you. People may grumble at first, but in the end everyone has to understand how expensive weddings are these days!

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