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Yep, exact same thing happened to me! It's totally, totally out of control. I know everyone on my parents list save 1 couple, but I know my mom kept the list pretty tame to what it could have been. Mr. KM's list was kinda a "whaaaaaaaat?!" surprise cause he said he'd only have like, 12 people. Uh huh. Sure. I just didn't expect it to be THAT big.
I'm afraid to look at the final numbers, but I'm pretty sure they're way over what we had intended. It seems that every week someone remembers someone they forgot to invite, whether its my parents, his parents or us. I feel horrible saying that I hope some people can't make it!
ive found the easiest way to tackle the guest list is to start out with a maximum number of guests you want to invite. from there you can figure out who you want to invite and who you dont. we're only inviting 150. anyone not invited is still welcome at the reception after the dinner is overwith.
Haha love the poll. Our guest list is totally out of control! I try not to think about it too much, or I get nervous.
@guffee, it started that way but my parents can afford to invite everyone, so they just said "to heck with it" and both sides kind of just went for a free-for-all. I look forward to meeting these people I suppose...
It did get a bit out of hand, but we have managed pretty well to tame it!
Ours got way out of hand. I wanted 150, and we ended up inviting 276! But, only 150 ended up coming to the wedding, so it worked out.
Because of the type of wedding we had and the fact that we paid for everything ourselves, we never gave our parents a piece of the guest list pie. Looking back I do actually feel bad about that, but we paid for EVERYTHING and then some, so we couldn't have afforded more people!
As long as your parents are paying to have these guests there!
My parents wanted to do the same, but our venue can only fit 22 tables of 8, so 176 guests!
Our preliminary guest list was over 230 and by now would have been closer to 300 if we didn't have the venue size restriction!
Yup. We keep remembering people or run into someone that we know, and didn't plan on inviting, but invited other mutual friends, and then had to invite them that way.
Ours is totally out of control...my FI has a much bigger family than I ever knew, and since he has so many relatives, my parents seem to think it's a competition, and keep adding people to their list! I'm going to know like a quarter of the people there...
I'd say the guest list was among the most stressful parts of planning so far...it seems to me like it's a rite of passage!
I honestly think people just like getting invited to weddings. I don't know what it is... to me they're a hassle unless you're actually close to the person getting married!
And my FI's family is bigger than I thought too, so it totally sucks that I hardly know ANY of them!
Our guest list is growing to the point that I'm starting to cross my fingers for "no" replies! And even with the exra invites I made, we are now cutting it close!!
Nope, mine is staying put. I gave each of our parents a set number of index cards to write the names and addresses of their guests on.
Gosh, I'm a little embarrassed to say this, but I feel like I don't have enough people on my list...I keep trying to find people to invite, because we're only at 70-75 people or so.
We purposely chose a venue that had a 100 person max and we are targeting for 80. Our invite list is around 130 but there are people (~30) that we know already will not be able to make it. Approximately 75% of our guest list lives more that 500 miles from our wedding. We are getting married 1700 miles from my hometown and FI parent's are not all that sociable so that helped our guest list dramatically. Our policy has also been to not invite work colleagues as we will probably do a go out to dinner/park celebration with those groups of people instead.
We told each our or sets of parents how many individuals they could invite and we let them figure out who would be included. I'm so glad we did it that way. It's help to keep the list under control.
it happen to us. we wanted a simple 30 people wedding and now we are in 55 people. i know is still small but it keep growing like crazy
I wanted 65. I have 170. Hard to say no when family is so willing to sponsor your day without being pushy.
We have been fighting tooth and nail to keep our guest list where we want it to be. It is the single largest cause of stress and anxiety for me and I'm constantly worrying that having a smaller wedding is going to cause people to be angry at me!
Yes, we officially had 50 more accepted, but we originally wanted 200 guests. We then invited something like 280-ish. Yup, those things grow like weeds once word is out.
We had a venue cap...that's the only way we could control it. And even at 250 myparents/my husbands parents and both of us still had a little trouble with people "forgetting to invite people and adding them to their lists" but it worked out...we ended up inviting around 350 people and about 230 showed up...THANK GOD!
we said that we were NOT inviting anyone that we don't both know and that we haven't talked to in a year. That eliminated a LOT of people.
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I just got my parents guest list and added it to the list of our friends and all FI's family and FMIL's peeps... holy crapola, all of a sudden it's gotten to 236 people! I don't even think I know more than 90 of them!
GAHHH. End rant.