Post # 1
Fiance and I went to Bed, Bath and Beyond to start working on our Registry and selected some basics… China, Glassware, Towels, Bed Sheets, Pots & Pans…
I’ve been reviewing the list and cleaning up where needed… I guess it didn’t hit me until I saw all the prices and quantities listed on the page, but I feel INSANE for asking for 12 sets of a 5-piece china setting at $135 a pop! Or 12 crystal champagne flutes at $40 each! These figures just blow. my. mind. Not to mention, I feel like I’d cry if any of these items broke!
A little backstory: We didn’t want to register at all, but my mother kept insisting, so I told her I’d only register for the basic necessities and ONLY at BB&B so people could use their 20% off coupons, etc. Now, I’m starting to feel totally uncomfortable with the idea of a registry again.
Is it really necessary to register for fine china and crystal? Can we downgrade to everyday china and glassware? I just feel so… greedy registering for all this stuff that I could totally live without.
Post # 3
I didn’t register for crystal or china. We live in a tiny apartment, so there’s just no room for stuff like that that we MIGHT pull out once a year. You can certainly ask for everyday stuff instead.
Post # 4
I can COMPLETELY relate to this. There is always target you can register at…maybe limiting yourself to BB&B is causing you to feel more uncomfortable than needed. I fell IN LOVEEEE with a set from BB&B but Fiance and I can’t afford it and I don’t want people to spend $13 on a plate. So I registered for plain white set from Target. Classic and timeless.
My mother actually told me not to register and she doesn’t understand it. I felt SOOO uncomfortable and tired so hard to keep the costs down but some of the items were impossible to do. My inlaws pushed me to do it. From his cousins to his mother…so I did and it’s not too bad after you realize its actually nice to help other couples get ready for their lives like you have.
Post # 5
I’m not registering for china or crystal either. I have inherited china from my great grandmom. I don’t need crystal right now. No one ever comes over. I’m focusing on things I really could use/need.
ETA: I haven’t finished my registry. It’s too much to do in one day. I also feel bad registering for things. Oh well. I really don’t expect anything from anyone.
Post # 6
It’s completely up to you. If you have registered for those expensive items, be sure to include some items that are more affordable as well. I personally didn’t register for fine china, because Fiance and I live in a small townhome and don’t have enough space to store things we probably won’t use. I figured I can always get those items later in life.
Post # 7
I agree – we only registered for regular plates, cups, kitchenware etc. Just switch it all online to stuff you’ll actually use! If you want some fancy things, upgrade your pots and pans to really nice ones that will last.
Post # 8
We didn’t register for china or crystal. We did register for some nicer every day plates (they were $40/setting), and our wine glasses were about $35 for a set of 4. You can leave those things on if you want, but make sure you’ve got a wide range of prices. Fiance and I didn’t register for those items for the same reason as many of the other PPs commented…we won’t have the space to store it, chances are we’ll have a set passed down to us, and we don’t have a need for it right now.
Post # 9
I would just try to register for things in all price ranges, that way you’re not only giving the expensive options. We did not register for crystal or china, but we did include some pricier items on there, like luggage, in case family members want to go in together and buy a larger, communal gift. But we also have a ton of less expensive items on there, too.
Post # 10
I didn’t want to do a registry either. I registered for everyday dinnerware on Macy’s for $20/set, towels, and some kitchen gadgets. I did crate and barrel too – nice serving dishes for like $12. Wine glasses for $5 ea, etc. I think I have about 100 items total for 180 invitations and at least half of the stuff is under $30. I really don’t care if our friends get us gifts but I put cheap stuff on there if they want to. I feel like the registry is for the relatives aged 50+ who really like to buy towels for newlyweds.
Post # 11
We didn’t register for china either. We registered for plates and stuff that I consider really nice that were $7 each from Crate and Barrel. I can’t picture myself ever wanting the fancy stuff — but if I did, there are like 3 or 4 sets from various grandmothers that I could borrow. We did register for some expensive things (silverware that’s $40 per setting, pots and pans, luggage, bedspread from Anthropologie).
Make sure to think about how much stuff is on your registry. We registered for about 20 things at C&B, 65 things at BB&B, and 20 things on Amazon’s registry. We had one shower with about 50 people, and well over half our registry was given to us at the shower. We will have 150 people at the wedding, so I’m hoping that the other half of the registry gets bought for the wedding!
Post # 12
It’s a tradition in my family to give china and crystal. People like giving heirloom gifts, or something that you will have for a long time.
Just because you register for it, doesnt mean people have to buy it. Just make sure you also have lower priced items and you’ll be fine.
For what it’s worth, I think for $40 for crystal glasses is a great price!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t register for anything I wanted, or anything in the same category but more expensive than or competing with my first choice. If you’d rather have everyday tableware, then that’s what you should register for, and if you don’t want the fancy stuff, then don’t register for it.