Post # 1
Okay, so happy post.
We went to talk to his parents today… they apologized (really they aren’t bad people just.. somewhat..frustrating). long story short… FI stepped up to the plate, and hit a gawddamn homerun!!!! It was amazing… It was all a blur so I can’t really remember everything, but the things that stood out were:
“It was a slap in the face and insulting to all of us that you’d threaten not to invite people to get our way”
“We feel we can’t trust you because you overreact at everything and make it about you.”
and my personal favorite
“We’re on a budget, we’re cutting people, and quite frankly if (some cousin) can have a wedding with 90 people, then why the hell should I invite a bunch of “family” that quite frankly I don’t give a fuck about”
… never. been. more. proud.
SO we will be cutting our list to 175. we start by saying we will go by closest family first and our friends, then whatever numbers are left over will be split between our parents for them to decide what friends/extended family they want to invite.
I knew he had it in him <3.
Post # 4
@mayflowerbride13: YAY! That is awesome. Good for your FI!
Post # 5
@mayflowerbride13: i’m so glad things are going in the right direction now. hopefully they will continue to be supportive.
Post # 6
Yay! So glad he stepped up for you guys and your wedding :]
Post # 7
Thanks! Me too, I think he’s mid wake up call… We’ll see!
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Post # 9
Just wrote this to another Bee whose partner finally stood up to a controlling mother:
Congrats! Your FI stood up to her/them. Wooooo!
Now the bad news- if parents are used to submissive children, it can be a real shocker to them when they are stood up to. That means that they can fight against the independence and ‘free will’ even harder. When my FI started standing up to his parents, it came to them threatening to disown him and, on a separate occasion, threatening to not attend the wedding.
This may just be the beginning but trust me when I say that it is so worth it in the end. My FI’s parents still try to treat him like a child from time to time and he still has to stand up to them, even though the biggest of the battles have come and gone.
Post # 13
We’re down to 180 guests! out of the original 250!! 😀
Post # 14
I just saw this – great news! I’m so glad things are starting to head in the right direction. 🙂