Post # 1
So DH and I have not purchased a home yet. We have not even started looking yet. We oogle but have not even considered purchasing yet. We really want to design our own home and build it from scratch but the home we want is out of our price range… So we have talked about it and have said that if the right house fell into our laps we would buy it, no matter how old, if it were the right price, in the right place, and we loved it we would take it. And I am already having nightmares about it… I keep dreaming that we buy our dream home, an older house that has been previously lived in but we love it. Then I dream that our house is haunted. Not “that was a weird noise” haunted but like “paranormal activity” haunted. OK not that bad, but you get the point… I have had maybe three of these dreams and it is always a different house I dream we buy but it is always haunted and the ghosts are always bad in my dream.
PS Another thing to keep in mind is that I do believe in ghosts, I have had a personal experience before and do not think it is something to take lightly so these dreams are kinda freaking me out…
Post # 3
@LovelyLaura8: It sounds like an old house wouldn’t be worth it just for peace of mind!
Maybe look into newer homes where there’s only been one buyer and you can get a bit more history? Otherwise build!
Post # 4
@AB Bride: New construction is what we really want anyway! 🙂
Post # 5
not all pre-owned homes are haunted. in fact, most aren’t. you may have a fear of hauntings, but it’s kind of ridiculous to refuse to buy a pre-owned home because it MIGHT be haunted.
i think you need to be more open minded. unless a new construction is truly in your budget.
Post # 7
That sounds a little extreme. Plus, if you believe such a thing, how can you be sure the ground you’re building on isn’t haunted? Or doesn’t have graves on a part of the property? My university recently discovered dozens of unmarked graves while doing new construction. They had to stop construction & now it’s an unmarked memorial (aka just a green field). Turns out a large chunk of our student body was sleeping within feet of the graves. They keep it pretty quiet to not freak the students out.
I have a good friend who built a new house maybe 4 years ago & months later when he was mowing the lawn, turned up this little disc (I forget what it’s called, but it’s this decorative stone that gets placed in the ground above the grave). and it turns out the back of the property was a family graveyard in the 1700s.
My point is–anything can be haunted or creepy if you think that way. Be a bit more open minded.
Post # 8
@LovelyLaura8: i’m with you on prefering new construction, but i don’t think this is rational at all.
First off, I should say I don’t believe in anything that can’t be proven and explained by science and physical evidence. So personally I find the idea of “haunting” ridiculous. That said, even if you do believe in all this stuff, i would think just basic math would support the idea its HIGHLY unlikely that EVERY pre-owned home is haunted. Does believing in ghosts also mean you believe there are enough restless spirits out there evil enough to focus their energy on doing harm to a random living person just because they happen to move into a house? Come on.
Further, without knowing your age, it’s safe to assume youve spent substantial time during the past (at least) 2 decades in previously occupied buildings. Have you NEVER lived in a home, dorm, apartment, anything previously occupied? Are all of the office buildings, schools, libraries, courthouses, hotels,etc etc in which you have spent time been brand spanking new? Unlikely, and yet you’ve made it this far.
In other words, I think i’d make a concious effort to embrace rationality on this one. You’re bound to face many more pressing conflicts that will demand your energy — try not to expend too much on this.
If you can’t get past it, going on the fact you believe in ghosts, then you must also believe in the validity of paranormal investigators, so how about hiring a team of them to attend the inspection. Have it certified ghost free.
Post # 9
@colorofmyheart: its funny because I know that most houses are not haunted and the chance we would purchase one that is haunted is so low its not even funny yet I keep having these nightmares!
@BagsnBooks: I absolutely agree. I don’t know what we’ll get in a house or land for that matter. It’s the fact that I keep dreaming about it that is bugging me.
@polyblonde: I do believe in ghosts and haunting. I have had one personal experience with a ghost and one personal experience with a haunting. And have known others who have had experiences as well. That being said I do NOT believe that every per owned home is haunted. I believe almost the opposite, that a haunted house is a rare occurance. I do not believe I have ever lived in a haunted house or apartment, I am 27 and have only lived in two residences my whole life. I would not have someone “certify” the house is ghost free either as I do not think there is any real way to prove that. I was just saying that these dreams are recurring and have been bothering me.
Post # 10
@LovelyLaura8: nightmares are just that- nightmares. wake up, breathe, move on.
look at newer homes. ask about their history. anything terrible that has happened there (murders, suicides, etc) should be readily available to people. so it’s not like you won’t be able to find out.
so. go look for a house. find something you love. stop worrying about ghosts. if it happens to be haunted, get someone to get rid of the spirits.
Post # 11
You can actually check tax records and see the info on the home owners. That way, you can see if they’re deceased or not, if it matters that much to you.
Post # 12
I could have written this yesterday! FI and I JUST put an offer on a house a few hours ago (yay!) and all the houses in our area (city) are super old! This one was built in the 1900. I’m afraid of this too! I actually had a dream last night that we moved in and then found out the house want haunted by a girl named Amy. She wasn’t mean though. Weird. I hope that’s not the case for us! We are going to take the chance, though. 🙂