Post # 1
Okay bee’s, I see alot of posts asking how you pay for your bills? As in does your hubby/fiance pay or do you split the cost? And other Q’s related to that. So are any other bee’s out there just simply homemakers like me? My husband makes enough money to cover our bills and have money extra in the bank to save and splurge on. So we never saw any reason for me to get a job. I was going to get one part time just to have one but then realizing I would never get off weekends as my hubby does I past it up. I know alot of bee’s out there do work even though there hubby’s/fiance/so’s make enough money. But hubby said he loves being able to take care of me himself. Anyone else out there a homemaker? Where I’m from alot of women are homemakers as I live in a “southern bell” type state as some would call it. But I don’t ever see any bee’s talking about it on here.
Post # 4
I’m a homemaker now (and have been for the past 6 months or so) but it’s ending soon, and I couldn’t be happier. I quit my job in November and went back to school, so while FI is at work, I’ve been at home (in addition to going to classes). Honestly, I kind of drove myself crazy, so I’m happy to be going back to work/classes/etc almost fulltime. But before I stayed at home, FI did for about 6 months (same reason; left his job and went back to school fulltime) Drove him crazy too 🙂
Post # 5
I have a full time job as a Paralegal and am quite busy. My husband and I split everything down the middle. He makes a bit more than me, but I still make enough to split the bills.
I work from home 3 days a week so I am luckily able to juggle homemaking and the job. We have no kids so keeping the house is quite easy for now. If I do have children I would continue to work full time.
I don’t think I would have the patience to be a homemaker, but hell I’m all for it if you’re busy enough and your husband can afford it!!! 🙂
Post # 6
I work full time and have since I was a kid. I work a lot of hours, but still have time for volunteer work and free time. Everyone is different and needs to make choices that are best for them individually. I’m sure location and culture plays into choices made too. For me, I could never be a homemaker – especially without kids. I wouldnt say I love everything about my job, but I do like thinking about new things, helping people, and I like the returns – money, acknowledgement, etc. When I have days off during the week and noone is around, I tend to get bored. FI and I could live off of his salary, but with mine we are able to save for the future and spend freely. This may not be ideal for everyone, but it works for us.
I also think everyone needs a plan B. What if my future husband and I get divorced. I wouldnt want to be in a position where I didn’t have updated career skills necessary to get a job and take care of myself.
All this being said, FI says he would love to stay home and be a house-husband 🙂 I can’t see him cleaning the house, but he’d love not dealing with going to work. Just different personalities I think.
Post # 7
I am temporarily and my husband can cover the bills and savings and small vacas if we wanted, but withou my income there arent as many splurges and international trips and nice bottles of wine, etc.
I hope to have another job soon. I like being home for now, but I need more stimulation so even though I could stay home, I dont want to. But if it works for you, great!
Post # 8
I would love to stay home all day and just do whatever I wanted, but I like having my own money. I am submissive, but not that submissive. I don’t want to feel like I’m dependent on his money just in case something happens later in life where we don’t end up together and I have nothing to fall back on.
Post # 9
Interesting most of you couldn’t be a full time homemaker, (getting bored, ect reasons) very understandable lol. Although I think I also forgot to add my heath issues with having type 1 diabetes since I was 13 years old. :/ yicks I know! I have to take 1 shot every single time I eat and or drink ANYTHING other than diet pop and or water. Even gum makes my sugar go up! Then another shot at bedtime and another anytime my sugar goes high (estimated around 200 shots a month.) Thus being said I have bad feet problems and other issues. I get sick easy, also. And hubby & I have been together since I was 15 & early on in our relationship he got a job not the same one he has today since he was only 17 at the time lol but has been a working man practically our entire relationship, thus he always paid for dinner, ect. Yes, being in VA/KY (moved to va a little over a year ago, raised in ky) has alot to do with it. Most every married woman I know is a home maker. Some of you said you wouldn’t do it without kids. Well, shortly after we got married we became pregnant but I lost the baby. 🙁 We plan on trying again when I get my sugars under control!
Post # 10
I’m a stay at home mom, though I’m rarely home. My husband covers the household expenses, I’m raising a great kid. When she goes to school I look forward to returning to work full time. I feel like life is unpredictable, anything can and will happen. If my husband left me or passed away (GOD FORBID), I would want to know I could take care of myself.
To be honest, I’m a great mom, but I’m a really horrible homemaker. I can’t cook, I shrink clothes, I burn pants with the iron and I hate doing dishes. I’m pretty sure I’d get fired haha.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t feel comfortable with it unless we were loaded – and not just making a lot, but a lot of assets. If I didnt have anything to worry about anything financially, like a paid off house, a new 50k car every 3-5 years if I wanted to, my 2-3 childrens college money in the bank, an international vacation every year or two, and a no worries about retirement… yes, I’d be happy being an home maker. But as long as we are simple middle class, I’m going to work, make more, save more, spend more, worry less… and hopefully pull that retirement in earlier.
Post # 12
I am blessed to stay home at this point in my life. FH makes enough to cover all the bills and doesn’t really want me working. I too have health issues which we are trying to get under control so we can make babies! I am very busy with full time ministry and wedding planning so definitely don’t have the bored issue other bees have mentioned. (kinda wish!) I love being in control of my own day. If someone calls me up needing to talk, someones dying, etc. I can drop everything and go. I miss that when I have a “real” job. I don’t know what my future holds but for right now I am content.
Post # 13
I would LOVE to be a homemaker. I am currently working my butt off to pay off student loans and car loans so that when we have kids in the next 1-2 years I can stay home.
It’s worth it to me to work 50-60 hrs per week now to stay home with our kids. I have always wanted to do that. He agrees. I’ll have to work part time, but he can work from home 2 days per week, so it will work out ok.
I would love to be in your position!!
Post # 14
I’m not a homemaker now, but give us a couple years (or until our first child comes) and that’s what FH and I have always planned!
I think alot of people view homemakers very negatively, but I personally feel that that is my calling… I don’t look down on people because they go to work, and I wish people wouldn’t look down on me because we don’t want me to.
The way I figure it, after putting in the time and effort to keep the house, cook from scratch, mind the garden, put away fresh food for later in the year, take care of the children, homeschool the children, volunteer with the church, and run a small home based business (to be determined… lots’ of ideas, we just need to settle on one), I’ll be working probably harder than my husband who wouldn’t work out of the home!