Post # 1
What are your thoughts on homeschooling, or have you ever even given much thought to it? If you homeschool, what’s your method and what are your reasons? If you don’t, what are your reasons for whatever schooling you chose? What do you think parents should do for the kids for socialization, independent of type of schooling?
I know a few people who were homeschooled all the way until college and some who did it just until high school or for a few years. All of them are exceptionally bright, and they are all doing great now as young adults (in med school, studying on a fellowship overseas, etc.). The fathers of these people were professors, politicians, and consultants, and the mothers either worked from home or were SAHM. Neither of us wants to stay at home full time, but if everything falls into place the way we are headed, we will both have very flexible schedules within our careers. My husband has been pushing this as the way to go for years now, but I am still apprehensive.
I was homeschooled for one year in elementary and it was a great experience, especially education-wise, but I quit because I got bored of seeing only my siblings day in and day out. However, given the social problems my husband and all of our siblings faced in traditional schooling (bullied, no friends, wanted to and thought about ways to commit suicide), we think if our future kid is anything like us he/she would definitely benefit. If not, we think it would still be really great for his/her education. No matter what we decide, we want to figure out the best way to socialize a kid. Our experiences as antisocial/weird kids in public schools were that you learn (sometimes) how to talk to kids your own age, and we don’t think of this as the best way either.
Note: We did not get married today, I set that date before we knew exactly when it would happen.
Post # 3
FH was homeschooled for a couple years. He liked it until he tried to go back to public school and they wouldn’t take his (fully accredited) credits. He ended up dropping out because of it and getting his GED.
I was “homeschooled” from middle school until I graduated. I went to a co-op/private school, but I was registered in the county as a homeschooler. I had school 4 days a week, 8:30-1:30. It was a “best of both worlds” situation. My graduating class was 9. Our entire school had 125 kids in K-12. My transcript was valid, and I got into college just fine.
I wouldn’t outright homeschool, but I would definitely consider sending my kids to my former school.
Post # 4
There are exceptions to every rule, but I’d say generally I am against it. Of course there are circumstances where it is appropriate (off the top of my head, if your only other option was a school with a terrible academic record or a dangerous school and you couldn’t move or get them into a private school). But generally if a decent school is available– children should go to it. My reasons are mostly that I believe that teachers who have gone to school for and are trained in the topic area and teaching methods of every specific class are going to be better equiped to teach children than parents with no particular knowledge or skills. This becomes more true especially as children get older and into high school. While I’m sure some parents do the right research and put in the effort to make home schooling as acadmically challenging as traditional schools, I worry that there is not enough oversight of this system and that a lot of children would fall through the cracks and get poor education that would come back to haunt them in college and beyond. Then of course there is the non-subject matter stuff like learning how to be independant of your family, learn to be in new and uncomfortable situations, deal with unpleasant and pleasant people alike, learn how to negotiate problems without parental oversight, learn how to sit in a boring class that might be not particularly useful to you, etc. I think all of those are important skills for kids to learn to prepare them for life which will often be boring, difficult, and not geared specifically for you. And then you get into the friendship/social issues. I could go on, but I think you get the point. Generally I believe that traditional education is preferable to homeschooling unless there is some specific reason requiring it.
Post # 5
I agree with corgitales. Pretty sure kids could do a lot better than listening to me all day for 12 years. Also being exposed to a variety of people, both peers and superiors, is an important part of education and that’s just difficult to do in a home school environment.
Post # 6
I know a lot of people that homeschool and have homeschooled. For the most part, the kids did really well. With the internet, plans are easy to come by and there are a ton of video classes on youtube especially made for that reason. Around here there is an organized group of homeschoolers that do activities together several times a week. The go rollerskating, soccer games, field trips and tons of other stuff. Also, there are many community colleges that will do special classes for things like science that is harder to do at home.
MIT, UCLA, Ozarks University, Univ of Neb, UNLV (I am sure there are more) all offer online classes for home schoolers (some are free). UCLA and Ozarks are actual online courses that teens can take and MIT are more like just sitting in on the class, but some of the MIT classes will let you turn in the work and have a TA “grade” them for you. My son (who already graduated hs) loves the MIT courses, he does them for fun.
Post # 7
I have a few concerns with homeschooling, however all home school is different so don’t take it to mean I dislike all forms of it.
I worry about the child not getting interaction with other children their own age, and I mean the good and the bad. This sounds awful, because I know parents do not want to allow any harm to their children, but part of growing up is interacting with people who don’t always like you and I find (in the cases I have witnessed) home schooled children don’t always get diverse interaction with other children or people.
The limitation of the parents or person who is home schooling them. Let’s face it; we’re not all brain boxes so how can we teach our children the range of subjects that a school can. Even if you are really good at one thing, such as Maths, and can teach your children to do calculus at 4 that doesn’t mean you can teach them how to read or debate or to speak another language. Your child might get individual attention and tailored lectures, but if you can’t teach (some people just can’t) they’re not benefiting from it anyway
Structure. School provides children with a certain amount of routine and structure which they may not necessarily get at home. Obviously in some cases they will get this, and in some cases the school doesn’t provide this. I just know, in my heart of hearts, I wouldn’t be able to maintain a strict structure for learning.
Post # 8
I have a close family friend who is homeschooling her children for now but I will not get into her personal reasons. I have listened to her talk on the subject profusely and I agree with many of the benefits she discusses, but I see a lot of pitfalls in her logic, as well.
At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for your child. I can have tons of ideas in my head now of all the ways I want my future child to be and all the decisions I am going to make for him or her, but until that child actually comes out, develops a personality and I get to know that child as a person, I cant possibly know the right decisions to make. As of now, I would not homeschool a child of mine because I think that the child loses valuable, valuable social/emotional skills and experiences that are gained by schooling, and I’m not just talking about being around other kids. With that being said, I have no idea what any of my future children will be like at this point and as a mother I think it would be doing a disservice for me to be close-minded toward it if it was what my child really, truly needed to be successful.
Post # 9
It’s very, very rare in the UK to homeschool anyway, but I’d never feel I had the expertise to teach every subject to my children. I could do pretty well with music, my husband with chemistry, physics and maths; but if they asked us a question beyond the realms of standard schoolteaching in any other subject, we’d be stumped. I just don’t think we could do our children justice and stretch them far enough to achieve their full potential.
Post # 10
My brother and I were homeschooled and we both LOVED it. Our parents took us out of a private school when I was in 4th grade and my brother was in 6th. Both of us learned so much more than we would have and in most subjects, we worked ahead of our grades. Our school days were shorter too. On “perfect days” we would take the day off and spend time outside and we would just make up that days work the next day….and still be done by noon.
As far as “socializing” went, we were perfectly ‘normal.’ Frankly, I can’t stand when people assume homeschoolers aren’t socialized. We were members of groups and I was in dance classes, so we still had tons of friends.
With college, neither one of us had a problem getting in.
Post # 11
I’m very pro-homeschooling, but recognize that I would have to be fully committed to basically setting up our home like a school, and that it all works better when there is a group of people working together in homeschooling groups. It’s hard for me to buy into the idea that I couldn’t better teach my child through one on one instruction that someone having to handle a classroom of thirty kids.
However, whether we will actually homeschool depends on the schools in our area when we finally have kids, and the particular needs of our kids. If there is a good montessori school around, we’ll probably go that direction.
Neither my FI or I were homeschooled, but most of the kids I know who were are better emotionally well adjusted and socially confident than the average kid, not worse off. Just depends on what you’re teaching them. The exceptions have been kids who were in very religiously based home-schooling curriculums, who were horribly behind when joining a high school or college, especially in science and literature.
Post # 12
Unlike some of the other posters here, everyone I’ve known who was homeschooled was very behind when they started attending traditional school.
Post # 13
Also I feel my children will have plenty of time to figure out what I think about everything. It would be good to get some different perspectives. Not that I have children, just hypothetically.
Post # 14
I agree with several of the posts above regarding both the importantance of the diversity of experiences at school and the ability of teachers to teach.
Other than that, I will note that I knew several people who left homeschooling to attend either middle school or high school with me, and they seemed to me to have a tough time socially with transitioning to traditional schools.
Post # 15
I think it is something you must be passionate about, if you half ass it even a little, you are doing a huge disservice to your kids. I have several friends who are hardcore into homeschooling. They do tons of projects and get out into the real world for education in a way kids in public school (I am a public school teacher) just aren’t able to. Their kids go to public school or a local Christian school for specials (art, pe, music, etc) and they do extracurric activities so they def get their fair share of social interacting. I have also seen parents who are 1. not qualified to homeschool 2. hand their kids the academic program and say have at it. Then these kids come into my school and are several grade levels below. You really MUST be dedicated to it, I can’t stress that enough! Sidenote-I was homeschooled for a year and hated it, I wanted to see my friends during the school day.
Post # 16
I was homeschooled. I feel my education was decent but I never pursued higher education. My “college prep” HS curriculum still didn’t provide enough credits to enroll in college and I was too lazy/didn’t know where to begin to look into make up courses. I think my parents could have pushed me harder and I wish they did.
I also was given very few opportunities to socialize as I was growing up, which has led me to be quite awkward socially, even well into adulthood.
For those reasons, I don’t plan to homeschool my children.